Drifting

[Deliainthemaking]

feel a bit of a fraud not as urgent like some posted on here.

about drifting friendships?
even though as some is inevitable its getting my to point of depression now. I hate a child young (19) and i'm the only one who has a child, I know it would isolate to a degree and I knew it would change my role, be hard.

My best mate didnt make enough effort was always the lads came first type, then went away and now apparently were missed, Karma tbh
My other mate never makes any effort anymore she started going out with this boy who we have concerns is a bit controlling, I've stayed her friend because If it went nasty I could live knowing I'd abandoned her. many others have and she comes crawling when she wants something. she goes to college and has made her own friends and basically forgotten about us.
Another one doesn't make any effort and has NO excuse quits every job like after a day, no college spends all day on games , computers etc. Never instigates interest and then complains noone else does.!
Another seems to have drifted
Another is in Nottingham see her sometimes still chat
I have one mate who works etc still makes alot of effort.
I'm the one who always tries to organise things things and I always end up planning stuff its left to me and I'm the one with a kid to look after.
Sorry Rant over.
How do you deal with driting?
How could I make things a bit more equal??
do I just accept things may have run there course??

Tbh I think you should keep in touch loosely with these people, but focus on making new friends who you've more in common with. It may be that in a while, you'll become closer again with your current bunch and the gaps will reduce - or not.

In the meantime, build on relationships you can develop through work or study or children/baby groups, whatever outlets you can find.

thanks :)

logged on to fb and realised that I know so little about these people now, I try to make an effort and the sometimes reply, but its fairly onesided
I should just take the hint that im clearly so boring and banal that even a reply is too trying for them,
no one cares, if i went missing tonight i guarantee nobody would know check or care, I dont know what to do anything I try im either not worth answeing or acknowledging im alive but pestering is not good.
I would be better off not here, so would DS im a crap mother I have nothing to give, no one will reven give me the time of day what can I offer dc? nothing
im just sat in tears im not a bad person , boring but not bad this isnt fair noboDy cares whatever I do.
I dont know what to do im so lonely and I can't get out of it

sorry long rant

Honestly facebook isn't real - people just try to make themselves and their lives sound more exciting than they really are. I'm sorry you sound down. What about trying to get out and about a bit more - children's actvities or some of your own. I'm sure you have loads to give if you can find the right outlet. Friendships can be as easily made as lost

Honestly facebook isn't real - people just try to make themselves and their lives sound more exciting than they really are. I'm sorry you sound down. What about trying to get out and about a bit more - Via children's actvities or some of your own. I'm sure you have loads to give if you can find the right outlet. Friendships can be as easily made as lost

thanks for reply
lot of it is ventation I have depression which comes round in cycles
so much emotion than I embarass myself that i've said too much
how do I get that removed???

That's what these boards are for - anonymous venting, advice seeking and opinion sharing. Don't worry about anything you've posted (unless maybe people in rl know your name and you want to hide your posts from them in which case you can request mnhq remove it). No one is here to judge - just to listen and help if they can.

19 mth im a SAHM

atm nothing

I always find that once they get to about 2, you start perking up a bit...as a person...maybe you're feeling more like your old self now and looking around, youve realised that you're outgrowing your mates a bit.

I agree that you should still make the effort....people change and there may come a time when you have mre in common again.

In the meantime what about thinkingof college for yourself?

Delia - Have you seen a gp about your moods? try and get some rest now and see if you have a different perspective in the morning.

Bluddy Mofo

all of it soo true

how can I get that post removed