think ive been the cause of a break up

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shit I didnt think I was doing anything wrong

I used to text/call him about random stuff

I left work last year, he stopped contact, I had an idea then it might be because of his DP, fair enough

They have now split and Im being blamed

I think it is not so bad at being ditched, but about having an insecure woman seething in jealousy at you even when you are talking of your new engagement.

I know someone who once told me that XYZ was very angry with me as I was in the middle between her partner and her. I couldn't believe it, we had only crossed words ONCE (before they got together) and had never talked to each other in the YEARS they had been together. That's the kind of mindless jealousy I'm talking about.

"we had only crossed words ONCE (before they got together) and had never talked to each other in the YEARS they had been together."

So you had a history of bad feeling and spent years ignoring her and you were surprised that she didn't like you?

spidookly, who are you, I think I love you

No, actually I knew her (as a colleague of my sister, but had not seen her for several years)but I didn't know she was with him. The guy apparently had a crush on me when we were teenagers, one day we talked, he was not my cup of tea, and that was it. We were 16.

Move on 7 years down the line and one of my university friends tells me about this woman who was very jealous of me, and whose relationship was not going well because of me. I couldn't remember even the name of the guy by then. Obviously I was very surprised that I was meddling in the relationship of a man who had not been in my life, and was not even my friend.

To be honest, I didn't give a shit if she didn't like me. Do I thing she was an idiot?? Sure, who won't?

Spidookly, MOAD is saying she'd only talked to the man once in several years and barely knew him.

So I went out last night and met a few people I used to work with, they told me the XDP has told people I have still been in touch with her DP since last year

I just made a joke that either he is using me as a cover for someone else or shes just a jealous idiot

Another friend said the man in question had asked how I was and said to say hello from him, I didnt even reply to that one

I dont think they know who to believe but I am not going to worry about

Nutters, the both of 'em. You're well out of it!

Your joke sounds about right - either he has been seeing other people and pretending that texts from his OW are from you, or his XP is a vindictive bunnyboiler. Both possibilities are equally likely. As GB says, yo uare well out of it.