dh addicted to pc games

[Pomi]

dh spend all of his time on playing these games. I have disscussed this issue before on mn now i am concerned about how much money he spend on it about 40 to 50 pounds or more in a month. We have a very tight budget and basically live on tax credit. I keep thinking about reducing our weekly food bill. The question is how i persuade him of stop spending? Should i start throwing his new games deliverd to the door? I once hide his newly bought game but he then found out. but it made him careful for some time and he started having it delievered to his work or at his mums.

Pomi, does he know anything about computers? If not, then it should be really easy to scupper the computer so that his games wont work.

can you not convince him to rent games instead of buying or to buy second hand ones?

Lilacbump he used to buy from ebay but not any more as you know it takes a while but he wants a game as soon as it comes in a market. He will not gona rent or borow as want to make his own bloody colletion to make the house full of rubish.

Nightynight he definately know more that me about computers but it remined me of the day three years ago when i break his computer and other things infront of him, the only thing which actually got dammaged was the keyboard.

Thank you for replay.

pomi,dh used to be a nightmare until I got pregnant with dd and now she is here he just doesn't have the time!
When I go on the internet (usully 1-2 times a week & when dd is in bed) dh & I sit in his study together and he plays on his playstation (or whatever it's called!). We have a deal though that when we have done what we need to the other stops what they are doing and we spend time together away from the games etc. TBH it works quite well,we usually do this 1-2 times a week. About the cost of the games..we are fortunate enough that the odd purchases are not an issue and im a sahm so dh knows what comes in/out and knows bills need paying iykwim.

I remember a time though when dh was on them every night and it was driving me mad..solution...I hid the control pads...Hee Hee Hee..He finally asked me if I had seen then after a few days. I replied that I had hid them and that he would get it back when I was good and ready. MMmmmm he seemed to reduce the time spent on them from this point . Good luck.

Pomi - i wholeheartedly sympathise with you. My dh can spend hours on his pc or ps2 games. Drives me crazy ... In fact i can honestly say the majority of our tiffs are pc/ps2 related. Although he never spends that much on games, its more the hours spent playing these games that does my head in. To keep costs down my dh trades in his old games at a store called Games, whenever he buys a new one. Maybe you can suggest that ? Or why not join up with other likeminded friends and share games, or alternate purchasing new ones ? TBH things have improved since the birth of dd2, because we have a no games while the girls are awake rule. And with two little ones he is shattered by the time they go to bed. Still, as my mom points out, its not the worst vice in the world for a dh to have !!

Im sorry, but if you are strapped for cash the he needs a good talking to.

ml - yes we have the same deal - DH want's a new computer game he trades in his old ones and gets a pre owned one - or he uses his b'day/christmas money - or he's been know on the odd occassion to do one of those 3 for £30 and he'll get 2 for him thn a PC game (ie CSI) for me so I can't really moan.

game's the best place for trade in's thou. (either that or he swops them with his mate's in work)

Thanks for all your massages. Most of you are saying that after having kids it become better, I would say a little bit. Before dss he used to have his dinner after coming from work and then straight to games but now a 15 or 20 minutes can be spent with them.

My friend has just left her husband who was the same over cds, couldnt buy it second hand or download it from the net, had to buy them ...he now has a huge cd collection, a house thats falling round his ears because all the money went on cds instead of the house/food/bills and his wife and kids have left. Be warned.

My DH plays an online game, which is free. It drives me demented that he spends the time he does on there, but at least it doesn't cost us any money. Just a thought.

my DH used to be the same, ALWAYS on the computer in fact it nearly split us up because i felt that he was "lodging"with me and not my husband, what made it worse was that DS used to play them with him and that was his excuse that he was spending time with DS.

However since the birth of DD and me having had PND he was told very firmly when i was PG that if he started this when the new baby came that i would divorce him for neglecting his family!!

Now he just goes on the pc for an hour a night in fact we have to fight for it because i want to go on MN!, and he usually has an afternoon on the computer with DS on a saturday while i get my jobs done around the house,- he even bought an extra control pad for dd who,s only 18months and she sits there thinking she,s playing the game-she loves it!

and it is my another fear that dss will copy him. I dont want my kids to be like him. ds 22 month can turn the computer on put the head phones around his neck and start playing with mouse and keyboard.