My MIL in particular is an absolute pain. Totally blames me for everything possible (stolen her son, he wouldn't chose to get married within a year of meeting me, he wouldn't have chosen to live in the NE etc etc). Last visit she told me not to hug ds1 as there was nothing wrong with him....also told me off for not teaching him his animals (this was in a park about 1/2 a mile away from animals that we visit twice weekly...I think she siad it out of spite cos we weren't taking them to the animals cos we had the dog with us!).
I has ds 2 about 9 weeks ago now and we called them to arrange a visit whilst dh was still on paternity leave and we had planty of free time...well they refused to come because
1- they had things they couldn't cancel (they are retired!)
2- they think we'll be too stressed and therefore they will get a better longer visit if they wait (they didn't explicitly say the bit about the longer visit!)
SO they are coming in the middle of term time (dh works in a uni!) when dh cannot get time off. We arranged for them to come fri afternoon, saturday afternoon- yet they booked a visit from wed-monday and when dh has said over and over again 'I'm working' they have ignored him. thankfully dh told them again on sunday this....and they pretended it was the first time he'd told them...FFS what do they think he does? GRRR
God the saga of my MIL is huge so I'd better stop there...needless to say she has told dh to his face that he is crap at relationships, not a physical man, he is a dreamer and will not suceed and before we met that he would always be single. He believed her!! I have spent the last 5 years telling him I love him, he's a lovely husband...yet everytime thay come he feels 14 again and gets depressed.
could go on......
I sincerely hope I am not like her to my ds's when i get older...or to any possible dil's!!
I'll probably be back later when they've gone.....
(mnet is a great place to rant btw)