I was with my ex for six years. In that time he wouldn't talk to me, looked at spending time with me as a "chore", didn't kiss or hug me unless I asked him to and lied constantly to me. He was also controlling and extremely tight.
When he eventually left I loved being single for a while but it soon started becomming a lonely existance. So much so that a few months later when he suggested trying again (but remaining in seperate houses) I agreed to it, even though I KNEW the only reason he wanted me back was because he'd tried his luck with a number of different women who all turned him down. I KNEW he was using me but TBH I was using him too, I just wanted some company and someone to go out with at weekends.
We were both as bad as each other on this score. Anyway I met someone else, at first it was just talking etc, then we went for a meal together, started meeting up for drinks and went away for the day together. Now the situation is I want to develop my relationship with this other man which means I'm going to have to come clean with the ex. Half of me tells me he'll only be bothered because he'll lose his weekend shag but I'm half concerned that actually, he might be really upset. I know I shouldn't care too much, he'd have done the same to me if a better offer came up but I feel really guilty.