Can you get a parent being toxic to one of their offspring and not the other?

[Alambil]

Just wondering...

Oh yes! out of 4 of us my sister the fave - mum paid for her driving lessons and car, uni,holidays, no part time job like rest of us always giving her money and praise- parents visit her not me or others. She has fab career, fab house, kids etc see no toxic damage but my DP's brother was the "GOLDEN BALLS" in his family and ended up blowing all his mothers money ("inheritance") on drugs and lotus eating around the world - has terrible fights with his mum and is penniless living at home with her now in his 50's and is a bit of a sad case.

We are really conscious of not favouring any one of our DC over another -hope we can be successful and the effects last a lifetime

I'm one of 5 kids and my middle brother was obviously the golden child, but none of us resented him for it: it wasn't his fault, and he has in fact turned out well. Married a toxic woman who is almost certainly abusive to him and their dd while mollycoddling the ds........another story altogether that one!
Don't know about scapegoats, we were all that, maybe golden bro was least targeted (by scary Dad) rather than actively favoured. I know I am my Mum's least favourite child, but after some difficult times, we have made our peace.

Yes they can. One of the mothers at the playgroup where I took my dd had SS involved in her treatment of her elder DC, but there were no problems with the younger one. Talking to her about her elder DC is a horrible experience as she blames all of her woes on that child - who is only 3 BTW. Talk to her about the younger one and she's a different person. Its so, so sad.