Hi, hoping some-one can give me some good advice. I've been married for 15 years and have two kids 12 & 9. Our problems started just after my second child was born. I suffered some after delivery health problems and was admitted to hospital. My dh didn't seem to understand or be supportive. The year after that was terrible. His behaviour became child like and I suffered with continuing health probs and post natal depression. Eventually I gave him three months to buck up his ideas or he could leave. Things gradually improved but I've always found it had to forget the hurt he caused when I was at a low ebb.
Things have changed again over the past few years. Last year I discovered he had taken out a join credit card and ran up huge debt on it. I had no knowledge of this, nor had I given consent for this. He must have forged my signature. I found out by a letter from the card company. First he denied it but then admitted he didn't want to tell me. Its put a huge strain on us financially and I worry myself sick over how its going to be paid back. Hes put on alot of weight and has developed some disgusting personal hygiene habits ( too gross to explain ) I had a serious health scare a few months ago and again was very unsupportive. This lead to alot of rows and he told me that he was only staying because he felt sorry for me. I was given the all clear but the hurt is still there that he again couldn't support me in this. At Xmas we were at a work do of his when a girl he knew came up to him, put her arm around him, they talked very closely together, then she gave him a smacker of a kiss right on the lips, right in front of me. We did talk about it and he said that he didn't realise she was doing it ( ??????? )
I feel he has lost total respect for me in every way. Our sex life is non-existant for several years now and I couldn't bring myself to do it anyway. I'm so worried about our kids and how they'll be if we separate. The money side of things is a constant worry and I don't feel I can talk to anyone about this and feel so alone. Any advice would be great.
Thanx