Friendship - Am I being silly to mind about this?

[elinorbellowed]

Hello
Trying to work through my feelings about this and wondered if anyone could help me understand why I feel this way.
I have a very close friend - since 6th form, we lived together for a while, she was at the birth of my son. She had until recently, a rather glamorous job as a theatrical agent in Central London, which she left last year to train to be a teacher. She wanted something more family friendly, because she wants to start a family soon.
I am a teacher who, since coming back from maternity leave last year has been desparate to leave. The atmosphere at work has been horrible. The staff are great, but management are awful and have been very bullying. My line manager and close friend was bullied out at Christmas and I am leaving to start a new post in June, (very exciting for me, as it means leaving London and starting a new life in a beautiful part of the country - me and DP cannot wait -friend has not so much as said well done...) Another person is also leaving.
So, I discover today that friend is coming for an interview for my job. She didn't tell me she was applying and sent me a text today to say she has an interview on Friday.
Why do I mind so much about this? I don't want the job anymore, hate it here, and I want her to have a job and an income near her home (it's not far from her). I feel that she has ignored everything I have said to her about the place and disrespected my feelings by applying without discussing it with me. I worry that she will hate it here, (likely!) and it will be about me. Also, I suppose that I really wanted to leave the place behind when I move and if she is there, it will still be part of my life. I feel very uncomfortable about her having my classroom, my friends, my pupils.
How can I move beyond this?
Thanks
Elinor

Maybe she knows how you feel about it but the convenience of location makes it worth it to her, or maybe she feels she would cope ok with the circumstances you've described. Maybe beggars can't be choosers and there're not a lot of jobs about.

She might just not be talking to you about it because she feels it would be awkward. She might be quite nervous about the interview and worry that anything you say about the school which is negative might make her worse.

Text her to say good luck and promise to yourself that you won't ever do down the school in front of her if she gets the job. Of course if she doesn't get the job you can maybe comfort her by saying she wouldn't have wanted to work there anyway..

Thanks Suzie, that's good advice.
There are 69 jobs advertised for this subject in London and 17 in this area of it, so it's not that much of a rarity, AND there'll be more later in the year.
I can certainly keep my mouth shut about the school from now on, but she's heard enough from me about it over the years that it seems like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted!

Well it certainly is wierd.

After the interview I suggest you ask her why she applied for the job. In an interested way, not annoyed way! Just see what she says. And in person so that you can see her body language.

Good luck with your new life - congratulations!

I was thinking bout what would annoy me in this situation if it was me. It would be to realise that my friend is taking asolutely no notice whatsoever of what you have told her regarding your job before you knew she was going to apply for it or that she simply was not listening to a word you said. Maybe I would I would feel that she is saying to me "you cannot cope with it but look, I can"! as well.

Also, if things were to turn for her the way they have turned for you I would have to bite my lip very hard not to say "I told you so!"

Suzikettles, how do you manage to be so nice and understanding so early in the morning! I am very jalous!

gorionine, yes! I think that is why it's bothering me so much! You have described it really well.It feels like she hasn't listened to me at all. She is a very self-absorbed person, and I often suspect she hasn't listened to me. For example, she persists in calling me between 5 and 7.30, when I have repeatedly told her I can't answer -dinner/bath/story/bed for two small children. I was thinking that was because she didn't really want to speak to me, but actually I think it's because she doesn't listen.
Now she wants to call me for interview tips! I'm going to be really professional and give her generic ideas and not express my opinion until after the interview. Thank you for all your advice.