Jealousy between Grandmothers

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Has anyone seen the rant in today's Daily Mail from a grandmother who's insanely jealous of her 'rival' Grandma?
I'd just like to reassure parents that we're not all like that! Indeed, I can think of no better scenario for little ones than having two full sets of grandparents who get on and respect each other. Not many are so lucky.

OK, some mothers of sons may be a little jealous of the mothers of daughters who get to 'move in' at birth and help out. But most of us, I can assure you, are just delighted if our little ones love us and enjoy our company and we're thrilled if they can have the same relationship with both sets of grandparents.

you sound lovely your dgc are v. lucky.

My children have grandparents like you and I love the fact that they get very different (but equally important) things from them.

Pleased to see the other post: Contrary to usual - about people who get on with their in-laws. Similar but different but reassuring to know there are families who enjoy each other and don't let jealousy rear its ugly head.

How cheering. I adore my dgd but the idea of being jealous of the "Other Grandmother" has never occurred to me. We are friends. We do tend to wind our dcs up about them being allowed to look after "Our Baby", mind.

Grandparenthood (and I a far from the conventional idea of one) has come as a great joy. But the greatest joy is being able to share it.

I can remember two friends of my Mums. They lived next door to each other and were good friends. Ones son married the others daughter so obviously they "shared" grandchildren. Whilst they still stayed friends it was a nightmare for the young couple making sure that the grandma's did equal amounts of baby sitting, visiting etc; or words were had!

I don't think I could be coping with that, starfish. Unless your own life is wholly subsumed into the business of your grown-up children (and how unhealthy would that situation be?!) it'll never be possible to divide grandmotherly time up equally. But perhaps I am just weird about not expecting some sort of strict 50:50 division of things!

Sounds like my life. My husbands ex wife is pathologically jealous of me, because I see more of my stepsons daughter, she is equally as jealous of his partners mother too. Yet she makes little or no effort to see her granddaughter, and puts all her energy into causing rifts and shit stirring.

We all got on fine until the grandchildren arrived. I was never the OW, as my husband had been divorced from her for over 8 years when we met, and she was already remarried. She used to refer to me as her childrens second mum, and life was nice and smooth for everyone.

Then it all changed..... :(

They need to grow up and get their own lives. One if my dcs grandmothers is jealous of any other relative who sees my dcs before or for longer than her. It is pathetic and desperate and frankly, odd.