Contrary to usual - stories of people loving their in-laws?

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Okay so DP is DP not DH but my sort of in-laws are just lovely. I'm from a small family, my DM died when I was young and DP's mother has 4 DSs and has been so incredibly wonderful to me that they feel like an extention of family already. One of DP's brothers is staying with us in London for a few days while DP is working away and I've just spent the past few hours guzzling kettlechips wine and guacamole laughing and chatting with him like one of my closest friends. Just feel really lucky. Does anyone else feel like this, sort of like one of the 'nice relationship' threads to balance out all the sad stories of in-laws?

My MIL is lovely. We hit it off right from the start and she is the only parent OH and I have between us so we cherish her. We see far more of OH's family because they live a lot nearer - only 150 miles away as opposed to 250 miles for my family. DD loves her granny and is utterly spoilt by her.

I love the fact that MIL tells everyone she knows how lucky she is that she gets on so well with her DIL.

I'm about to go on a two week holiday just me and my mil.

Love all my dh's family to bits.

Mine are ace, couldn't ask for better. After all they made DP the lovely man he is

I get along fantastically with DP's dad. We lived with him for 4 years until we got our own place. He used to drive me to get my shopping every Friday, used to drive me to Lakeside when I needed to get the DC new clothes, and lots of other things. I can pretty much say anything to him as well.

DP's Nan and Grandad are the kindest people I have ever met. I'm far closer to them than I am my own grandparents. I'm always on the phone to DP's nan, we can spend over an hour on the phone gossiping- they're fab and I love them to bits!

I love DH's family so much. MIL is lovely, adores all the grandchildren, always tells me I look thin , never interferes, loves to have us all round for dinner etc. She's coming over tomorrow to look after DS so we can go for our 20 week scan :) FIL is harder work but still basically kind and generous. Both DH's siblings are great company and we're all pretty close.

I feel so lucky to be part of a family that accepts me just as I am and demands nothing from me other than normal social reciprocation. My family are nice people but such hard work; spending time with them is never relaxing (although of course DH feels it the other way round).

My mum died when I was a teenager and my only sibling died a few years ago in a very traumatic fashion, so my family life has never been that cheerful. To be part of a large, loving, laidback family means a great deal to me.

I have known my PILs since I first met DH, when we were 16y. That's some 21 years ago now. They are part of my family, a loving part of my family. They treat me as a daughter. Likewise my BIL treats me as a sibling too. And me him. DH thinks the same as me re my family too.

My pil have been the reliable parents mine could never be due to my mother's mental health issues. I have gradually become the person I am meant to be through their love and support. I gave now given myself permission to see them as the parents in my life and keep mine at arms length. It is mil I want to call when dv do funny things or make me burst with pride and it is mil I want around when I have babies. I am very lucky, they are respectful of my parents but treat me like their daughter. They are wonderful- so much so that I don't care that they can't cook and feed my children chocolate at every opportunity!!!

Oh and all my grandparents died years ago but dh's 96 year old gran sends me granddaughter birthday cards and buys me special chocolates. Love her too.

i'm still in regular contact with exh's mother, she remains generous and kind to me 7 years after i split up with her son.

my very dear FIL died last year. his long term partner, while not being a blood relation to dh or ever having been married/lived with him or FIL, is a wonderful lady who i'm proud to have as my dc's 'gran'.

Well my MIL is a BRICK. She has had a crippling auto-immune disease for 40 years, and has had dozens (I do not exaggerate) of operations. She's in constant pain, bloated with steroids and cannot wash or look after herself, and is the most cheerful almost childishly merry person I know. She has a passionate interest in her own health (obviously!) and the answer to 'how are you today' can take half an hour, but it's never actual complaining. She's silly and generous and funny and kind. She can get literally tearful fretting over the tiniest things but give her a real problem and she'll pluck wisdom and solid good sense out of thin air. She irritates me so much I cannot be in her company for more than 48 hours straight (DH and I kind of have a rule on the subject ) but I honestly don't think I know a better woman. Apart from my own dear Ma of course

One of the revalations about my ILs is that they all tell each other they love each other all the time. My family never say so ( although they do). It's nice. I do it to the kids. They do it back. It makes me happy every time :-)

I'm sure I've said this more than a few times on here, so stop me if you like.
My MIL was the best one ever - always supportive yet never in your face. I loved her to pieces and fell apart when she died. I miss her dreadfully.

Me too. My ILS are like the normal parents I longed for as a child, and SIL and BIL are brilliant too. :)

Lovely thread. :)

I miss my ILs. FIL died November '07, MIL died 7 weeks ago, very suddenly from a brain aneurysm. They were the best ILs I could have wanted - they brought up my DH to be a man who really does half the housework (because we both work f/t), never balked at even the worst possible nappy when the DCs were little, be honourable, trustworthy and wonderful. They never challenged our parenting even when they disagreed with it - no snidey comments about EBF or attachment parenting at all. They took me into the family from the first, when I was just the latest GF, and treated me like a princess.
Best of all, they got on like a house on fire with my parents - MIL and my mum were especially close, my mum felt the loss of my MIL more than she did the loss of her own mum years ago.
They were the best ever .

My PILs are brilliant, and have been so kind, thoughtful and supportive since H left me last summer. I am very lucky, and have just baked them a cake to take through tomorrow.

Never met my FIL, sadly, but my MIL is great! She's a real woman's woman. I love to go for coffee and cake and a good natter with her. DH is an only child and MIL treats me like the daughter she never had. She does lovely things like putting aside books she thinks I'll like, or accidentally buying too much food at M&S when she knows we're a bit skint. And she's such a loving Grandma! I love her very much.

I have wonderful ILs. They live just up the road, are always ready to help with the DC, I love to just drop round for a chat and a cup of tea... Its my mil's 60th next week and sil and I are taking her out to a concert; should be fun! She has 3 sons so her 3 dil's are the daughters she never had.

My background is not one my PIL's expected of a future husband for one of their daughters. But they have always treated me like a son and been more open minded and loving than I could have imagined. They are truly wonderful grandparents to our children. They have set a fantastic example to me if I ever become a grand parent or FIL - open minded, non-judgemental, no pressure, lots of support & love, acceptance that their way isn't always the right way and most of all the recognition that life is about the children and the next generation, not them as GPs or us as parents. I'm very very lucky.

I'm joining this one too, both DP and I have struck out with out PIL.

DP and I had known each other as very close friends for about 15 years before getting together and his sister is a close friend. his family regularly attended birthday parties for me, he used to come to family parties with my family.

I memorably told his parents during one particularly good party that I was prepared to be adopted by them

The first time I met FIL I challenged him to a drinking game which he rather good naturedly joined in with.

They have been amazing to us, his parents have so much grace and have trodden perfectly around welcoming us into their family always offering support. they have balanced getting a stepgrandson in littlemad at the same time as they became grandparents to their first grandchild and they are just lovely with littlemad.

They are genuinely delighted that DP and I are getting married.

When DP spoke to my parents about proposing, my parents carried 3 bottles of champagne around in the car for 3 weeks waiting until DP proposed to me because they were so happy. they love him to bits.

We're very lucky

I bloody love my MIL! she is seperated from DHs dad...he on the other hand is a miserable so n so but love him all the same. But my MIL is lovely, I'd say she's one of my best friends, she's mid 60s and has got more get up and go in her than what I have, she even goes to zumba with me! I love her dearly, she's very funny, thoughtful and caring. I cant say any more than that really. x

I love my MIL She drives me cra

God, what happened there?

As I was saying, she drives me crazy from time to time, but she is kind, generous, caring, lovely, and generally a nice person.I actually think of her as a friend, which sometimes can feel a little odd, because DH very much thinks of her as his mother, iykwim.

I love my ILs. MIL and I have girls days out together and both joined the local WI together. FIL is just a big sweetie. What I love most about them is they take DH with a pinch of salt and are not afraid of teasing him when he gets a bit precious. They also look after DD three afternoons a week which makes it easy for us both to work.

When I had DD I began to show signs of PND. Bless the ILs they took care of their 3 month old grandaughter 3 afternoons a week so I could go to work. This was all I needed to sort myself out and function again. For this, if nothing else I will love them till the day I die.

My MIL is my best friend. We go on family holidays twice a year with the IL's and the BIL's family and always have a great time. We spend about 10 days with them all at Xmas too. My DH's family are incredibly close which is really lovely.

I feel really sorry for people who have bad family relationships.

Both my in-laws passed before we had dd, and although at first MIL was a bit frosty, FIL was the most wonderful man!!!! I realised she truly did love and accept me when, the night before our wedding, she gave me her own engagement ring, given to ger by FIL 50 years before. I cried, and wore it proudly on our wedding day. When she passed away, my BIL and dh gave me a gold bangle she had always worn, and i swear i have never taken it off since!!!!!

My own wonderful dad passed away three years ago, and my dh misses him so much ( as do i obviously!!!)

We both say how lucky we are to have/had the parents (IL's) we have!!!