He's very good looking.
Some of the detail will sound a bit overly dramatic, so do bear with me - she is an over-the-top sort of person, who, it later transpired was also taking quite a lot of coke!
She was in a very vulnerable state as her ex-boyfriend had just committed suicide, blaming her in the suicide note.
She made it very clear that she fancied the pants off him.
He was feeling crap about himself and so I think he really jumped at the ego boost and the escapism from our own, difficult situation.
I had bad nausea throughout the pregnancy and vomited most days, but had to work even when I was feeling dreadful, because he had been made redundant, we had a big mortgage and my work was freelance, so no sick pay. I was terrified that we would lose our house, as our income was lower than our monthly essential expenditure, even before we bought any food at all, so we were living on our savings, trying to make this last until he could find another job.
We had all been friends - me, dh and "sally" (not her real name, of course).
He and sally started hanging out with her kids and our kids, whilst I was at work, vomiting down the toilet.
They went to the pub for most of the day a couple of times (once I found out afterwards that my then 3 yr old had completely inappropriately been left to wander around in the admittedly not busy streets with the other older kids and they had played for some of the day in a public toilet .)
They went swimming together, they had lots of fun.
She came to the house pissed a couple of times and told me that how great she thought my dh was and how I should cut him a break by letting him have a nice long holiday before he started looking for a job again .
He said how attractive she was and how he was having more fun with her than he ever had with me - words cannot describe how angry this all makes me now that I can look at it with more perspective and not being pregnant and half gaga.
I said I thought it was inappropriate and he should stop seeing her.
He went ballistic and turned it into my problem of being excessively jealous.
At the time, he seemed to think it was my fault that all this was happening and I was very confused. He'd always acted extremely faithfully and never even flirted with other women, at least not in front of me, which I really appreciated.
Dunno, I must stop going on and on.
There's far too much here.
Things are actually very good between us now, although we do seem to go in waves and when it's down, he acts like a complete a*sehole.
What ended it all, I think, was that I was planning a V2bac delivery and I realised about two weeks before it, that I couldn't have him in the room - that level of intimacy was not comfortable with him anymore.
When I told him, he was really shocked and I think this stopped him going to see her again.
He told me that he wasn't going round there anymore because she'd been unfriendly with him, but I think it was more like, he didn't want to be seen to back down, but knew that if he didn't stop seeing her, our relationship would fall apart.
Sorry I'm so rubbish at synopsis - I just don't seem to be able to summarise very well.