I'm 64 and running out of family.

[Hunkerbunker2]

I am only 64 but my parents and (only) sibling have passed on. Is this unusual because I keep reading how people are living longer?

Don't have any advice really but I'm sorry you lost your family. It must be very difficult.

HB - I don't know - friend of mine is 50 and only has one (useless) brother left.....

My Mum was 64 when she became an orphan. (My Granny was 96 and Mum was their only child.)

I am her only child.

I have 2 DCs.

By the time I was 25 I had lost my mother, father, step-father and all four grandparents. I am an only child so I had no siblings to cling on to . It is not a nice feeling being left behind by your loved ones and I feel for you. I think some of us just have bad luck!

"It is not a nice feeling being left behind by your loved ones and I feel for you."

Yes that is how I feel, "left behind". I don't think about it often but today is my first day at home rather than working thanks to my employer downsizing the number of employees.

hunker, its hard having too much time to think

hugs to you

:( I had lost every member of my family by the time I was 39, and am an only child. It sucks. :(

I lost my father at 30, and my mother at 45. Last year I lost my close aunt and I have one cousin left, who has mental health problems and is an invalid. I'm an only too. The worst part for me has been trying to be there for my DD, my deceased aunt (she had dementia) and my cousin whilst trying to deal with my mother's death (to cancer) single-handedly. You're right - it stinks, but I think it makes you stronger in the long term. I also appreciate friends more and never take people for granted.

I don't think it is unusual.

My mum lost her parents and younger brother before she was 52.

My father lost his father when he was 8, and his mother when he was roughly 45.

Do you have children of your own?

I am the oldest in our family and I am in my mid forties

I feel for you Hunker. I dont think its that unusual to lose your parents by 64 but sad for you to lose you only sibling.

My partner lost his Dad at 9 yr and his mum about 7 years ago. He has no siblings.
My best friend like me in early 50's and she has no parents alive, and lost her son aged 20yrs a few years ago.

Conversely, because I had never known a grandfather and lost my father at age 15, as did a school friend, with another who had lost her mother at age 9, I marvelled, and still do, when I find contemporaries (and much older people) still had both parents living.

When my MIL died a couple of years ago (at the very young age of 51), I found it odd that my SIL and dh considered themselves very young to have lost a parent (they were in their late 20s and early 30s). It seems to depend on your own set of circumstances what you consider to be unusual.

OP, it is very sad that you have lost a sibling as well. Do you have children?

I dunno. My Dad is 64 and has just been given a maximum of one week to live. Not even retirement age ffs!

i had lost gp & parents by time i was 19,i have 2 brothers but dont see either of them,stepmum cut us off after dad died and havent seen her or my step sisters since then either.

I was an orphan before I was 50. I have no siblings and at 67 am the oldest surviving member of my family.I am 67 now but my family is my dh,dc,dsc,dgc and cousins etc.'Tis the nature of life-we mover closer to the front of the funeral procession :)

I'm 39, my mum died 3 years ago, my dad died 20 years ago, I'm an only child It was horrible when my mum died, I felt so alone, despite being married and having 4 children at the time.