Wedding anniversary gripes

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Hi all

Bit of background . . .

I've been married to dh for 10 years (almost) we have 2 kids, he works, I'm a sahm (kids are quite small, not babies).

DH and I have just had the most massive row, he's spending the night on the sofa as is furious with me.

Basically I need to know if I'm being a cow or if he is being a controlling eejit.

It's our 10 yr wedding anniversary coming up soon, he was going to be working during that time (also my birthday). So unable to do anything on the day. Now I don't really care about this and am cool about not making a big thing about it as money is tight right now etc etc. BUT last night he announces he wants us to go to another city, got to a footy match (I hate footy) and spend the evening with his friends.

Now part of me thinks Yipeee a night away but part of me is really hacked off that it's basically a boys weekend with me tagging along. I asked if I could see the hotel before he books anything and he went mental.

I guess he thinks he was planning something lovely and I've pissed on his chips. He is furious and sleeping on the sofa, I feel taken for granted and like nothing I want to do matters.

What do you think?

He went mental because you asked if you could see the hotel? What was wrong with a simple "No, I want it to be a surprise"?

hahhahaha peabody you made me laugh, thank you.

Bertie, I know, he was really cross. Admittedly there are other things that are wrong at the moment, which all came out in the subsequent row. But he basically was livid that I wasn't 100% thrilled at doing exactly what he wants to do.

But why did he think you'd want to go to a football match? Why did he think you'd want to spend an anniversary night with his friends?

He's completely out of order. And I hope he gets a crick in his neck on that sofa!

He wanted to go to the footy as it's a big "event" apparently. Which it tbh it is here (not UK). I'm not opposed to that in theory just the lack of discussion about any of it.