Sex help please!

[LilllyLovesLife]

Hope this is OK to ask on here, I never know what is allowed when it comes to sex etc but i don't know what else to do as it's a bit embarrassing!

After some initial sex issues with my new DP we have got over them but now have an issue that if I go on top, it just doesn't seem to work. I never really did it with my husband as he was always wanting to be in control so did most of the hard work, so it might be that I am doing something wrong. Anyway, I get on top and it goes in but doesn't stay in and we keep having to stop as it just keeps coming out

He is now worrying that he is too small for it and he is nervous about things like that anyway so I just want to be able to reassure him and also be able to take on some more control in bed.

Anybody know what I am doing wrong

I don't know, he isn't huge but not tiny! I don't think he has had these issues before though? Although I am the first person he has been with that's had kids so maybe I am bigger too

Try the reverse cowgirl position where you face away from him. It's better for a smaller man plus he gets a nice view of your bum. Unfortunately for you, you only get a view of his feet

nurseblade - Thanks for that. Is it easy to do? I haven't ever done it! Think I need some serious practice!

i think instead of bouncing up and down on the shaft, its better if you rock back and forth iykwim?

i always thought that rocking back and forth felt nice but maybe wasn't what was 'expected' iyswim. in porn vids, you often see lithe women doing 100 metre hurdles at 10 times speed lol, and there is no way my pelvis would cope with that. or my leg muscles.

in that position i do feel the onus is on oneself to be in charge and tbh its a tricky one to do if you are not confident. (ie me!)

since childbirth the only position i felt maximised tightness of vag was the man behind!

you may well be more roomy, and if he is smaller then you would notice this alot more with you on top methinks.

ask him how it feels, if its nice??

lol onus, anus

sorry ---childish!

Yeah I'd say it's easy, plus if you're a bit shy or embarrassed he can't see your face, so it might help. I think your worries aren't really to do with his size, or yours. You just need to practice and build up confidence. Make a joke out of it if it helps. Tell him your experience of being on top is limited and you're going to need him for regular sex practice. That would sound like a good offer to most men.

Thanks all. I actually just found myself looking at porn online to see how to do that nurseblade!
I will give it a go when I next see him!

I had this problem, totally agree with the rocking/grinding/rotating your hips thing, it helps keep him inside you and to be honest I think its sexier than looking like you're bouncing up and down on an exercise ball!!
If I try and go all porn star on my husband by bouncing it usually comes out and I end up nearly braking him! Poor man, and i'm not the lightest of ladies either!
Good luck and enjoy the practice!!

You can get more control of the movement if you crouch on your haunches on top instead of kneeling.. (it has a name..ermmmm... bombay cowgirl or summat!)

And the gyrating/grinding is a good one.

'Using' him to practice tightening your pelvic floor is apparently mutually beneficial

I'd also say try and relax and make it a 'fun' problem..IYSWIM. Anxiety and sex just don't mix. There is no 'wrong' just enjoying finding what works for you both.

Thank you so much for all the replies. I feel much better about things now and looking forward to seeing him at the weekend