Becoming-more-bold newbie, longtime lurker, namechanging for this.
I would like to hear your thoughts about which man you would choose. I am deliberately only giving limited info about myself, because I really only want to know what you think about the men :)
Man One: Self-confessed commitment phobe when it comes to having children (not about being in a relationship). Chequered past, but in the nearly ten years I have known him has really done some growing up, seeking counselling for his ishoos etc. We have a lot in common in this respect and support each other in this. We had a sexual relationship in the past which was quite frankly, the most intense of my life. I?ve not known anything like it before or since. I still feel a great desire to be with him. Geography is a hurdle, as is his current relationship (which will end eventually as he will not entertain the thought of having children).
Man Two: Honourable, ?safe?, very loving. Also supportive of me and my mild depression/anxiety which is not debilitating but is requiring a bit of work at present. We have also had a sexual relationship which is very enjoyable, although if I was honest it is nowhere near as intense as with Man One. As I mentioned he is supportive of me, but doesn?t really ?get it? as far as my difficulties with myself and my family problems but he does his best, bless him and I admire him for taking me on. His family are Lovely with a capital L, they embrace me. Man Two and I would have a wonderful, stable, ?safe? life together. Man Two desperately wants children. He would be a wonderful father. He loves me above all else.
One thing I will mention about myself: I could live without having children. Or I could probably be convinced to have one but I suspect I would have a rough time of it. But I know it would be worth it in the end. Another thing which may or may not be important; I knew Man One before I met Man Two. I didn?t believe Man One and I had a future when we were sleeping together and never imagined that we would still be in contact now.