Is this it now?

[fedupandfifty]

Can someone help me please? I am in an unhappy relationship with a long-term partner. I would like to leave this relationship but I am no spring chicken and I have a dd aged 9, Recently I was approached by a man who was seemed interested in me until he found out about DD. I was a bit put out by this and I now wonder whether I am likely to find someone who doesn't see my DD as "baggage". I'm not "on the lookout" as it were, but my interest was sparked by reading another thread. What do you think? Is this "it" now?

There are likely to be many men out there, decent men, who come with their own much loved "baggage". You have every chance of meeting one of them.

I would probably be more wary of a man of certain years who has no children than one who is divorced with a family.

I think you need to make a decision about your current relationship before you start thinking if another man will date you when you have a child.

what 444 said

why are you worrying about other men before you have even closed the door on your existing relationship

you could always try being < shock horror > without a man for a while

in fact, that is the recommended thing to do in these circs

ditch the dead wood, find yourself, then the replacement

I managed to snare a fantastic baggage free beauty with a good job and nice shoes. I had two dds at the time and i now have 2 sons too. I was very late thirties and baggage a gogo but it has worked - Our son was the first baby he had held.

That said- concentrating on sorting out and resolving the relationship you have now is the key - this person I assume is your daughters father and sorting things out with him and making it a civilised parting is essential (I speak as someone who does not have this and my children do not have contact with their father) - when you have done that for goodness sakes do not jump into anything - collect yourself and then after a bit of dating and shagging about (maybe not for you but I am a big old tart) find the man of your dreams - being a bit old and lumpy and having children is no bar to true love......

ooh and have a

Thanks all. I'm not really interested in anyone else at the moment, but I am sort of wondering if I still "had it" as it were!! Nothing like a bit of forward planning, eh?(wink)