Contact with dad

[chuckieegg2008]

Hi hoping someone out there can give me some advice. My parents split when i was 16 and i lost contact with my dad in the past 12 years ive probably only seen/spoken to him about 5 times. Anyway my brother is getting married and my dad is invoted to the wedding.
I completely understand why my brother has invited him and im trying not to see it as a problem but now that the wedding is getting closer i feel scared about meeting him and scared that im going to get hurt again. I cant stop thinking about how im going to cope on the day, i dont want to spoil my brothers big day by been on edge at his wedding :(

Thanks pea I want to try and make contact before the wedding but I'm so scared of been rejected :(

Your dad s possibly as frightened about meeting you again, and may also be afraid of you rejecting him. Some men lose contact with their kids because their ex makes contact difficult, especially if the bloke chose to leave her. Men are often rubbish at keeping in touch as well, you can tell that by the number of women on here who buy cards and presents from their husbands to other relatives, some even buying their MILs mother's day cards! as they would never bother to do it.
Do you think your dad intended to hurt you? I can understand your reluctance to meet him if he was abusive, but if he just lost touch he was maybe just being a (rather pathetic) bloke.
I'd try writing to him or phoning him.