called womans aid

[MyBubbles]

I called womans aid today.

I dont really know what to do now.

If it was just me then it would be easy.

Just cant seem to think straight

oh yes,the lockable doors!! those were fun!

you can also go on the homeless housing register....depending on your circs. you do get priority.

cest la vie,mamazon,timeforme.....my feeling too. but have to 'go with it' and let them do their stuff.

we're 7 years on op....

Well ILT, I hope your DD doesn't catch on and use the DV as her own excuse for her behaviour, they can be very devious these teenagers . I hope you manage to get a handle on things and get some positive support.

TIFF - I'm 7 years on too.

ah yo all beat me. i celebrated my 6th anninversary in November.

I left when DD was 10 weeks old and Ds was 4. we were going through having him diagnosed as Autistic and that kept me with x for a long long time. For fear of messing up his diagnosis. But actually i realised that the violence was probably doing taht already. I didn't want them to mistake the learned aggression and violence as part of the symptoms of his asd.
I wante them to see DS as DS, not the mini me of his vile father he was starting to become. I couldn't teach him to say his name and yet his father had already taught him to strangle someone if they didn't do as they wanted

OP - You are terrified of the unknown. i put off leaving for ages. i didn't know how DS woudl cope, or the other families would cope with DS. But it was fine. much much nicer than i had expected.

Please give them a call. you dn't have to make a decision just now.

OP - MamazOn is right. Even though my 'relationship' was so abusive (on every level) the thought of not being with him, not have him there to hold me after he hit me was so frightening.

I truly believed that I couldn't live without him, because that's what he told me.

He said that I was damaged good now, dirty and worthless so who would want me? Only he could use me now.

And that's what I thought.

But you CAN get out and you CAN be safe. But you have to leave when you are ready too.

I hope that time comes soon. xx

can't add anything more, the ladies here seem to have said it all but wanted to wish you the strength to hold your head up and walk away...you are strong.

Thankyou all.

I will have to re read this all tomorrow as h is back now- came home early.

how did it go bubbles? are things a little calmer now?

bubbles, any update ?

You say it's worse this time - that's what happens, it gets worse, not better

Please get out as soon as possible to keep you and your kids safe. You say he gets the cb - that's not usual, is he controlling you financially too? The advice above is excellent.

Whatever you do, don't tell him you are thinking of leaving. This is the most dangerous time when you are a victim of domestic abuse - please keep in close contact with Womens Aid, look at their website for strategies to get out safely. They will talk you through it.

Let us know how you are OP x

Great advice here. I'm very unqualified to provide advice but wanted to say this.

Some violent men kill their partners.

That is a good reason to leave. It only takes one drunken episode to get out of hand, for it to go too far.

You deserve a life free of violence and abuse and of feeling safe..

Op
How are you doing now?