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Work crush

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crushingonaboy · 14/03/2011 12:38

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I started a new job about 2 months ago. There is a guy who works there about 6 years younger than me who I have I suppose, been crushing on, for want of a better word. He isnt conventionally good looking but he is so similar to me, we get on outstandingly well, we have the same interests, humour etc.

I dont think he has any interest in me, our chats always seem slightly flirty but never overly so and tbh it could be in my head. We dont talk outside work or go out or anything. We have been on two work night outs but nothing ever happened or looked like it was going to.

I just want to get it out of my head. I have DP of 12 years and an adorable DS who is 5. I am happy with my life. But I fantasise about this colleague, not sexually as such but more what it would be like to be with him on a daily basis.

Its affecting me at work and to a lesser extent at home and I just want to know has anyone any experience of this and how do I get over it? I dont want to do anything with this guy, it is all fantasy I just want it to end!

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cabbageroses · 14/03/2011 12:56

Remind yourself how upset your DH would be if he knew?

Stop the flirty chats.

Be ever so focused on work.

You seem a bit mixed up-and maybe giving out mixed mesages to him, when you talk about nothing happening on the work nights out- well, why should it? Presumably he knows you are married- and if he is decent guy he won't try anything on.

If you want to end your fantasies just do that- stop thinking about any life or times you could have with him- whenever you start thinkong of him, replace those thoughts with nice thoughts about your DH and son.

Aislingorla · 14/03/2011 18:37

....and grow up!

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