I know this is evil....

[cherrysquash]

and I'm probably going to be flamed BUT I just found out that the OW who had a fling with my idiotic DH has fallen over while totally rat-arsed and hurt herself badly.

Karma is a bitch isn't it

I didn't say that, aisling...you haven't read either my nor the OP's post properly, IMO

Although it would be the end for mine, and the OP is inviting personal comments by putting it out there on a public message board

there has been no mention of "karma" for the partner who made the promises towards her...only the OW who has no connection, nor any loyalty towards her at all

now, personally, I would never do that to any woman (I believe in sisterhood, such as it is) and I do agree she deserves some blame for being a skank of the highest order (if she knew about OP, that is...Op doesn't actually say )

however it makes me very sad when I see woman pitted against woman for just a man and a cheating, deceitful man at that

it's pathetic really (unless this bloke has a cock of solid gold littered with diamonds, of course)

Yes yes, any DH who has an affair is clearly in the wrong. Whether you 'forgive' is a personal matter.

However, it does take 2... I think you would have to be saint like not to dislike OW.

What goes around comes around... just like OP, I would allow myself a little

I did say I would get flamed and guess what?

Actually the OW was a friend, someone who I trusted almost as much as my husband. I'm not going to get into how I dealt with him except to say that you shouldn't assume he got off lightly. Thank you to the people who understood my point and to those that didn't I will just say that it must be very lovely up in the rarefied atmosphere of your ivory towers.

Oh, and thanks for hanging me for my bad choice of words in my original post but in my frenzy of unjustified OW hating I clearly was not thinking straight

Just because you might not hear what you want to hear, doesn't mean people aren't on your side

< shrug >

i really couldn't take any delight in hearing that she had hurt herself. it souldn't detract from teh pain she and my 'D'H had caused me. i would rather not use up energy hating soemone else and knowing enough about them to know they hurt themselves when drunk. you have invested too much in what this woman is getting up to. it doesn't do you any good to go about hating people. it wont harm her. teh only person you are annoying by thinking about her si yourself. i agree with peterandreforPM aswell.

btw, OP, my post at 18:55 was aimed at aisling, as evidenced by her name at the beginning of it

@ I will just say that it must be very lovely up in the rarefied atmosphere of your ivory towers.

There was a similar thread where a poster wanted e-hi fives after finding out the OW might have a serious illness. She too was harping on about Karma which by the way is a completely misunderstood concept.

Karma - Hinduism & Buddhism The total effect of a person's actions and conduct during the successive phases of the person's existence, regarded as determining the person's destiny.
Source: thefreedictionary.com

Keywords here - total effect, existence and destiny.

I think it is in bad taste to crow with delight at someone elses misfortune so I won't but I do understand where you are coming from having gone through a similar experience.

a - karma isn't real
b - you're clearly not over it, how sad.

FGS, ow not to blame, not connected, owes no loyalty, no, only in the sense that you should never do anything evil to another human being. You wouldn't say of someone who robbed your house that it was ok just because they didn't know you. And often, as in this case, they DO.

Although, I like to think I wouldn't take pleasure in hearing about such misfortune: I find my peace in the knowledge that they are both nasty, deceitful, damaged, ugly people who are welcome to whatever pathetic excuses for lives they manage to carve out for themselves, as long as it doesn't touch mine. Good luck finding contentment and happiness knowing who they are inside, what they are capable of.

You'll have to excuse me, I only chucked H out just over a week ago!

Actually I want the real karma to be that I have a fantastic life, full of love and joy, loved properly by someone who knows what that means. I want to get to the stage where I even want H/OW to be happy because I am so deliriously so. Not there yet though, as you can probably tell

I have just had my first proper LOL since I threw my cheating bastard H out on Sunday. God only knows what happens next but reading your posts has actually really helped. I have a sneaky suspicion that of the two of us, I will have been the first one to raise a smile since. Thank you.

I can remember feeling sorry for my OW because she was a desperately sad cow. I wouldn't have wanted to have been her for anything because I am sure the affair she had with him did not do anything to improve her general happiness and left her no better off.

I blamed my then husband most becuase he was the one who had made all the promises to me. That's why he is now my ex

However, everyone gets to deal with an afair differently and i do understand that.