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Ex has started seeing someone - why do I feel weird, maybe a bit low?

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Poll32 · 12/03/2011 20:35

I met up with my son's dad today - our son is 7 months old so I have to be there for meet ups. I had suspicions that he was seeing someone else so I asked him and he confirmed it.

I don't know why, but I am feeling a bit down or feel strange? Is it normal? I am not sure how I am feeling really....

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RuthChan · 12/03/2011 20:43

It's understandable that you feel like that.

Even if the breakup was your decision, it is still natural to harbour the residues of the feelings you once felt for him.
When an ex takes up with someone new, it confirms that the relationship is irreconcilably over and that he has moved on. This can cause great sadness.

It can also be hard to be single while watching an ex starting again with someone new.

Don't worry though. You knew already that the relationship was over and this was bound to happen at some point.
These feelings won't last too long.
Be strong, accept the feelings and move on.
Go out and have fun with your friends!

JustaNickname · 13/03/2011 15:01

This is actually one of my fears since splitting with my sons father as I still have feelings for him but even if I didn't it would still be hard for me to see him with someone else as we live in a small town where everyone knows everyone.

Was it you that ended the relationship? Do you still have feelings for him?

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Poll32 · 13/03/2011 20:23

Yes, I ended the relationship when I was first pregnant as he was putting pressure on me to get married and I wanted to ease the pressure.... I thought I didn't have feelings for him, but maybe I do?! My son is his double which doesn't always help, but he (my son) can't help that.... I think as RuthChan said, it's normal to feel like this.... I do feel low though :(

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LadyFannyofBumStreet · 14/03/2011 00:18

It is normal to feel low, but this will pass with time. In the interim, concentrate on bonding with your baby. Incidentally, I read a somewhere that after a few years, he will no longer resemble his father and will start to resemble you. Something similar happened to my sister. Her daughter was the spitting image of her absentee father, but now at the age of 12, she is a mini clone of her mother Smile

SeeJaneKick · 14/03/2011 01:34

Are you having regrets over ending the relationship? Do you feel it was hasty?

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