he hacked in to my facebook and yahoo account - i want revenge

[everhope]

Long story but if any one wants background see previous post below -' scared of his ex so won't commit to me' basically on off relationship for ten years. Now we are both single and we started dating. He would finish it start again etc saying he couldn't do us cause hewas worried his ex would not let him see his daughter. This week i ended it. He then stupidly told me he had hacked in to my facebook and yahoo account. I feel very angry and want to hurt him. Is the best way just to feel glad he is out of my life or to get revenge for hacking?

I think you just should keep away from him. He sounds addicted to drama and now you have got off his merry-go-round of being dumped and getting back together he needs to find a way to get a rise out of you again. Dickhead.

The only thing I would do is report him to your local DV unit and talk to Womens Aid. Like I say, he sounds like he is just trying to get attention and if he doesn't get it then he might resort to other ways of getting it.

You are well rid of this arsehole.

Be glad he is out of your life.

Revenge is something that I have never had to carry out - I think I am too soft perhaps. Or it may be that when I think of revenge I think of the chinese proverb "Before you embark on the journey of revenge dig two graves" which suggests maybe taking revenge could hurt you also. Its not worth it.

It sounds like you are still angry and hurt by everything that has happened. Concentrate on the positive, not trying to plan revenge. Don't be so hard on yourself, grieve for the relationship and move on

best revenge is to show him you dont really care and to not give him the time of day.

Why are you wasting your life in this non-relationship?

You are very well rid of him, but you need to grow up and stop being addicted to all the drama.

What jjgirl said.

Walk away, don't become involved in tit for tat. I agree it's all very dramatic and shouty.....

agree with the above - ignore him and move on. Otherwise you're as stupid as he is.

The best revenge on a knobbo like this is to ignore him and move on. If he does do anything to harass you, send him an email that says simply 'I do not want any further contact with you.' and if he persists after that, report him to the police.

Quite so. Not giving a monkey's is the very best revenge. Not that it matters what he thinks really, as long as he doesn't get another opportunity to dick you about. If you start plotting elaborate revenges he gets the joint reward of telling himself you still care and being able to present you to the ex as an evil bunny boiler.

The hacking thing has done you a favour, though, as it shows you he truly is an untrustworthy nob, so you know at last it really is right to have ended things.

The best revenge is living well

Get a good friend round, open a bottle of wine and indulge yourselves in the best, most bitter and baroque revenge fantasies you can think of. And then forget about him.

Actually doing anything ties you into a dysfunctional dynamic that he will feed off.

If you involve yourself in revenge then you are still involving yourself with him. For what? To get a reaction? A person only wants a reaction from another person when they are interested in the response. To be interested in the response you have to be interested in the thinking of the person. You haven't finished with him, you probably never will unless you get a firm hold on yourself now either. How is it finished when you are still considering acting up to get his attention (aka "revenge")? He's got you on a string, all he has to do is guess your passwords and whoosh up you go like a match to a petrol tank.

If he were ever gonna value you he would have done it by now. And why should he value you when loud and clear for a whole decade you have broadcast on every non-verbal chanel that you don't need to be important to him, you will still be there. You are a fool if you think he's ever gonna chance for you, you've spent a year reinforcing his idea that he doesn't need to.

Call it quits, walk away, block him on every channel of communication he has and then go and find a good counsellor, preferably specialising in self-esteem issues or domestic violence and see if you can't unravel the mystery of why you keep settling for this shit- before you find someone equally awful to replace him with.

change for you, not chance for you