Bit of a long story, but basically for the past ten years i have been on and off having an affair with a man. The last two years we have left our partners and tried to give it a go. We were not constantly together fro the ten years it was on and off, with our partnesr and not etc. So we are now both single. Not a easy situation but we decided to date and try and be together. We will have few weeks together then he backs off saying he can't do this as he is scared off his ex finding out and then endangering his relationship with his daughter. He says he loves me. Then a few weeks later he will get in touch again and say he can do us. Im so confused and just don't know what to do. Ive tried to say that his ex wouldn't be nasty against him- yes we may never get on but we would get through it but he can't see this. I know the relationship started wrongly with an affair. Any advice really appreciated.