Can an affair ever lead to a happier new relationship?

[Boobalina]

I'm wondering. Obviously affairs are destructive and hurt people. But can they sometimes
a) actually work out for the best
b) lead to a happier, long term new realtionship?

The older I get the more I wonder whether there actually is a MR forever after or possible a series of 'Mr right for now'?

I am single, but not really looking to snatch husbands! But if you did have a connection with someone who was unhappily married - is it right for you both to persue it?

Happiestblonde

Glad to hear it's all worked out well for you.

rita thank you, it's never been better and the bad couple of weeks did us a lot of good. I also left the job I hated and have applied for PhD funding so am so, so much happier

It worked for us. We were both in crap marriages, had a short affair and then left our respective partners and set up home together. 20 years later we're more in love now than ever.

It can work but it takes a while to build up the trust required - after all, if you had an affair once you can do it again. It possibly helped that we'd both been in the same situation.

In an ideal world we would have split and then got together, but equally you can't control when you meet 'The One'

And when you're 20 (as we both were in our first marriages) the person you think is 'The One' probably isn't.