Do you and your other half have much quality time together?

[SPARKLER1]

I sat and thought about this yesterday and felt bad that I haven't given dh a lot of time since dds (6 and 3) were born. I guess it's just one of those things that happens when you have children. The girls demand all my time and attention in the day - having lots of my affection. When they are in bed I juzt want to be left alone and dh doesn't get much of a look in. I don't just mean "in the bedroom" so to speak but just time to sit and chat, kiss and cuddle.
We did have a weekend away alone a couple of months ago and it was really nice. We do go out together but it's usually with our friends and not alone. So that weekend was a one off.
Am I alone in feeling this way?

Er..Bozza,we eat with the kids too!

mdog - sometimes for me it would be relaxing to have someone else look after the kids so I could just be with dh. A meal with no picking food up off the floor or cups knocked over. A full nights sleep waking up at midday!! The luxury...

Yep, about 3 evenings a week but we trash the quality of it by watching rubbish telly.

Yes,I know what you mean milward!
However because I am mostly on my own with my two,by comparison a meal all together is relatively stress free lol!

Tomorrow I will have my first lie in in months as I am now in Turkey with dh (hence me being here at this hour-I'm two hours ahead of the UK)

I did laugh earlier tonight when I said to dh
'God,I'm sooooooo loooking forward to lying in tomorrow' and he replied 'Me too!'

Errr no mate. You'll be dealing with the children while I lie in blissful darkened solitude.

Began to concern me the lack of together time when dd was about 7 months and felt like i was morphing into dull, non make up wearing, never going out type person.

So dh and i do something that my nephew describes as "bent" but we have date night every other friday night. We cant afford baby sitters for this alot so.....we pick a country and theme the evening around it. Cook something from said country and tune in internet to a radio station for music and look up the word for cheers! I even manage to clear the usual crap off the kitchen table, light a few candles.And we HAVE to dress up, as in make an effort. so far we have been to 10 different countries, for the russian evening i even put on an old ball gown and gloves!!(couldnt do the zip up though)

It could easily just fall by the wayside as the week takes over but its really good fun and we sometimes feel quite coy with each other like we are dating. Any way thats my tip for homemade together time. oh and its also guaranteed whoopy night that night hurray!

Buddhamummy,that's great.....!!!!

What a wacky pair you sound.

(Which country was the best then...in all departments?)

i think it was Russia, its a very sexy country! Just the sounds of Radio moscow dar-ing and niet-ing over the air ways. The food was V V carb heavy and beetroot based but the vodka certainly helped.

LOL Moondog. I actually find it more relaxing eating with the kids when DH is not there! Mealtimes can be a bit of a flashpoint between DH and DS.

Budhamummy I am really impressed by that.

Mdog - hope you got your lie in!

No I didn't actually milward!

Nt that I mind,por dh is so shattered after a hell of a week,finishing his MSc,and dealing with his gravely ill mother that I slipped out of bed quietly and let him slumber...

Definitely my turn tomorrow though.

(Why Bozza? Does dh get annoyed or what?)

Have a night alone with dh tonight. Mum is taking the kids overnight as it was my birthday yesterday and we are going out for a meal and going to have a lovely lay in.

Probably go out once every 3 months.

Ooooh have a lovely time bh,and a belated happy birthday!

Thanks Moondog . Not happy as 31 now

Don't be daft-you're a spring chicken.

(I'm 38 and love it!!!!)

It is sort of inevitable I think because the kids' needs come first. It's been worrying me lately a lot but I know that once the kids are older then things will get easier. Nevertheless, me and dh went to a salsa class last night which was excellent. The PILs babysat the kids and we are going to make it into a regular event. I am so happy :-))

We don't, dd was always a poor sleeper up unti 18 months to a year so it was difficult to leave her. Now dh and I seem to be separating and while we've never said that the time we didn't spend together was a problem (we do do a lot of things separately) I guess it hasn't helped.

One of the nicest evenings we did have though was a takeaway, wine and the TV OFF