sexual question

[livinginthesticks]

ok, I have met a new man. He is lovely and I really like him. The problem for me is that I don't feel a huge sexual chemistry with him. I think it may be that I have been hurt from past relationships and having problems letting myself feel it if you see what I mean.

I know from past experience that as soon as I have an orgasm with a man - I'm hooked!

I've been to bed with him twice so far and it was fine - but I didn't orgasm and I really want to because I know there'll be no problem from then on (or I think there won't.) He obviously wants to please me and I'm not sure what to do...

I wish I knew that because it's blighted my life. Even men who aren't necessarily bad but who I would never want a relationship with do it for me.

I do think you need lust, but I also think you can get that more gradually than being hit by a thunderbolt too. If someone treats you right, makes you laugh, and you share common interests and have fun together, a slow burner can suddenly take off. So if he seems a decent bloke who isnt likely to shit on you, then its worth giving it the chance.

ooh, there is not such a thing as a good boy
does it help?

I agree with last comment of Squeaky
a stiff drink may come in handy

yes for some reason boxinghelena that does help and makes me laugh too!

Living - I think you're answering your own dilemma here.

You don't fancy him.

If it's a loving sexual relationship that you want it's not him.

Sad but true imo.

Take your time, love yourself and meet someone who has it all for you. :)

Living - xpost with Squeaky I would agree with that, if love grows...

And lol at a stiff drink for some immature reason

you never know, its is not always 100% down to ''us'', to what we feel. He could do something that you dont expect and blow your socks of. Give him some credit. He got you interested so far after all

he's coming round this evening - I'm going to have to explain something about the way I feel to him as I'm not acting normal with him. Just what do I say - be totally honest or is that too brutal?

Honesty as Afrodisiac ?

you think no then??!