I thought wedding vows were pretty much the same for everyone unless you added on your own personal bit.

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Someone I know has said they didn't say the forsaking all others bit in their vows .

Well, some people don't forsake all others. If they're fine with it, it's fine, surely?

I think the legal part of the wedding vows is really short and doesn't have much in it apart from "we're getting married, lol". So everything else is just additional.

I didn't say "We are getting married" when I said my vows .

"We're getting married, lol". :o

Wow, what a loophole!

j/k.

I thought if it was a civil ceremony you can pretty much say what you like as long as you and witnesses sign the register afterwards?*

*have never been married so don't really know what I'm talking about.

As far as I know (and I do know as am a humanist celebrant) the legal bit is that you have to declare there is no legal impediment to you getting married (eg you are not already married and you are not representing yourself as a member of the gender you are not), and then that you confirm that you do take the other person as your husband/wife. I'm not entirely sure what the difference is for a civil partnership.
Also, if you are having a humanist ceremony, you can say exactly what you like.

Sorry, meant to add that 'forsaking all others' is legally optional - you aren't allowed to marry more than one person at a time but who you shag is your business as far as the law is concerned. It is not actually illegal to commit 'adultery' - your partner can legally divorce you for it but you can't be put in jail, or fined or anything like that.

I didn't say that either i don't think.

They are a cheat so maybe it was part of the deal of getting married .

I did forsake all others but I didn't promise to obey him!

I did both .

I said the bare minimum - no forsaking, obeying, loving, honouring

fear of speaking in public...

Agree with SpringchickenGoldBrass, having sex with other people is 'allowed' within a marriage if both parties wish it, it can, however, be used as grounds for divorce if either party objects.
I am sure that a gay man and woman (her sexuality I don't know but they won't be having sex with each other whether she be straight or gay!) married recently for some 'art project'. So, obviously, sexual fidelity is not necessarily part of deal of marriage.

All I said is that I wished by husband to be my lawfully wedded husband and I knew no reason why he could not be.

I think everything else is totally optional as marriage is essentially a legal matter.

dh suggested we had 'forsaking most others' but he was kidding.

Mind you, we did think about having 'love, honour and tolerate'

I did all the foresaking, loving honouring and cherising but no obeying. Isn't the foresaking all other bit part of a religious ceremony (mine was nuptial mass)

I've never been married but I could never say the obey bit. It'd be lucky if it wasn't broken within a few hours

I did say forsaking all others but not obey, we swapped it for cherish, was a church wedding and priest was fine with the change, I don't obey anyone, I'm not a dog!

I am not a dog either.

Actually, it was my vicar that suggested (strongly) that we leave out the obeying bit. She said it was archaic and inappropriate these days :)

Well, I'm an old fashioned girl and my husband doesn't hold me to it.

Is it bad that i can't remember? i only married 2 years ago.

I dont think anyone has the "obey" bit anymore. I know we didnt.

As others have said the only required bits are the thing about there being no impediment to the marriage and the taking the other person as your hsuband/wife. The rest is up to you.