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jealousy

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Wysiwig · 03/03/2011 23:35

Have just been out with my sis, her friend and my niece and her friend...all of them are married/with partners, I'm a lone parent. I am not the jealous type and rarely begrudge anyone anything. Tonight whilst having dinner with them I felt lonely and jealous, that they have these "lives" and I don't. My niece, (who had to phone her husband and pass the phone to her mum to prove she was with her) I would be saying things like "I dont know how you can stand that",and it's none of my business and I know that but I just couldn't help myself. It makes me question my motive, that I am jealous so I say things (not horrid stuff though).

All of these women have had their cross to bear, my sister in particular, and I begrudge none of them their happy relationships. So why do I feel this way? Is this normal, because I don't like it. Seems like the only time I will feel happy is if I have someone who I have to "check in " with.

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Wysiwig · 03/03/2011 23:47

Just realised posted this on the wrong topic! sorry..

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robberbutton · 03/03/2011 23:48

Sorry Wysiwig, my only contribution is a 'grass is always greener' comment. You are beholden to no one, except your beautiful children who love you unconditionally. No one has the power to make you feel unhappy, no one has the power to make you feel like shit, or to question your own worth. Very often it seems the negatives of being tied to another human being seem to outweigh the positives, and you are free of all that.

Hope you feel better soon St Davids

Wysiwig · 04/03/2011 00:03

Robber..thanks for the comforting words, I just don't like feeling jealous pangs, it's not nice, and they're all nice people. Self esteem issues I think, have to get it sorted. Thanks for the daff too, a simple act of kindness, makes you feel all the better..x

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FaffTastic · 04/03/2011 00:08

Sorry, but I don't see anything to be jealous of if your niece had to pass her phone to her mum to 'prove' to her partner that she was there. Sounds as if you're better off being single than in a relationship that seems to have issues with jealously, paranoia and control. As robber said, the grass is always greener and, tbh, I would rather be in your situtation than the situation your niece is in.

It is nice to have someone to 'check into' and go home to, but only if they are worth it St Davids

garlicbutter · 04/03/2011 00:09

I'm sorry you feel down on yourself. It will pass, I promise!

If your niece has to prove she's out with family, she's in a shit relationship and you were right to comment!

Wysiwig · 04/03/2011 00:18

Thanks for the support..faff ty for the daff too..might have a bunch by morning :)

PS Love daffs, make me smile :)

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garlicbutter · 04/03/2011 00:33
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Wysiwig · 04/03/2011 21:39

Garlic...I have put them in water, they look beautiful ty :)

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garlicbutter · 04/03/2011 21:48

top stuff Grin Spring has sprung! x

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