Why do I like being married?

[SomebodySomeday]

I've just written a list of reasons why I don't like being married to DH. It's quite long and not even petty.

Now I can't think of anything positive

Please help.

I'm not looking for people to start telling me to leave him (I can work that out for myself) but I would really like some suggestions of things that might make it good.

It would be awful to think there's nothing good about it.

i think if you can't think of any reasons yourself then it would be pretty hard for those of us who don't know you or your marriage to figure the reason.

why did you want to get married? love? companionship? security? and do any of those things hold true now?

What are the reasons you don't like being married? How fundamental are they? If it's mostly niggles, maybe we can offer some suggestions if we know what they are.

Smashing I realise that. I suppose I was just hoping for general reasons to like being married.

Are there some things that lots of men do to make life happy?

robber they're pretty fundamental in my opinion. Definitely not niggles. I don't want to go into details because I don't want the thread to be all about the negatives.

I'd really love to hear of peoples' reasons to like being married. I'm sure there must be some I just can't see them right now

But it doesn't really matter about other people's reasons. Your opinion/reasons are the most important.

I like being married because its good security that DH can't (technically) just bugger off with the house and savings if he takes up with a stripper! Seriously though, its a good secure feeling.

There are lots of reasons I like living with him but you asked specifically about marriage.

My main ideals for a good marriage :

Total loyalty, honesty and support for each other.
Great sex and total intimacy.
Great communication, nothing should ever be "out of bounds".
Being able to agree to disagree, you don't have to agree about everything in life, although having the same values and beliefs are a good thing.
Wanting the same future, as in how you grow old together and the things you want to do.
Absolute respect for each other.

Let's see.

Brings me a cuppa in bed at the weekends.
Let's me warm my cold feet on him in bed.
Will catch spiders for me.
Walks my dog when it's cold or wet.
Still surprises me with the odd little gift for no reason.
Can work techy things which drive me bonkers.

Sure there's loads more but that's a start.

tbh being married is not that important to me. what is important is the commitment in the relationship and the love, care and respect for each other.

if we didn't have to marry to please various immigration officers i'm not sure whether we would have been bothered.

it was quite a fun party though, a good excuse to get friends and family together and we have some nice pictures.

The Things I think make a good marriage are

Good Communication - always being able to talk about things that are bothering you without thinking it will be used against you
Making time for each other.
Loyalty, honesty and support
Respect for each other and care for each other
Sometimes biting your tongue when you want to bite back.
Not taking each other for granted - always say thanks for the little things so that you each feel appreciated.
Good Sex

Apart from the legal aspects (as rudeenglish put it) all of those things listed are all possible in a committed relationship, not specific to marriage.

Is your question specific to being married, or is it to do with being in a long term relationship, OP?

He can reach things on high shelves....

erm....

there is definately more than that but cant think at the mo!

It is knowing that no matter what happens, when or where, he's got my back. He would do anything in the world to keep me safe, loved, and happy. And I would do the same for him.