some one who i thought was a good friend and colleague has made me question myself and my judgement, i'm not sure that i am being over sensitive? i worked with him for 5 years - we are both married with children with no suggestion of anything untoward, although S is very affectionate and effusively affectionate verbally - lots of 'love you' type stuff. i have never considered this to be anything other than his normal behaviour as he behaved in the same way to other colleagues (male and female). He ledt our work place at the end of december. on christmas day he sent a lovely happy christmas text to me and my family which i returned and signed off with the words 'love you' as he had with his - directing it to the whole S family. he and his 2 children have previously stayed at my home with my husband and children present and we all had a great time.
later on christmas day i got a text from his wife which said 'do not text my husband love you' i was extremely annoyed and insulted as having previously accommodated her children and husband, sent may gifts of clothes and home made garden produce - jams etc. having managed to get my head round the situation and decided that it was his call to contact if he wished (on the advice of my husband and eldest daughter which were equally cross and confused by the text) i have recently found out that S has 'called' into work accessed the office server and copied my files for use at his new job while i was on annual leave. am i a total mug? i am very very mad.