"I don't care that you're in pain, can we have sex anyway?"

[Codsworth]

This was the gist of it last night. I'm walking around the house bent over like a 90 year old woman will backpain and stiffness of the lower back. I had to stretch out on the sofa at one point because the pain was getting to me so much.

We got to bed, my back actually CLICKED when I turned over causing me to howl in pain (not actually cry but made obvious I was in a spot of pain!!) and what does he do? start trying to poke his willy into me. I told him no and he carried on nattering and trying it on for about an hour.

He KNEW I was in pain. FFS why are they do selfish??

pmsl at mercy!

op and others here who have partners who do nnot care how they feel - get the hell out of those relationships. jesus!

I thought Codsworth was Cod

I was

My partner did this to me - apologised each time, but did it again, until eventually I'd just lay there and let him. Years on, and I'm still getting counselling for the rapes that I endured.

Get rid of the fucking cunt.

wtf is going on today ?

It's not actually rape though is it. I mean, I didn't want sex but I did consent so its not rape is it?

You need to get rid of this man, now.

[waves at Mercy]

OP - that sounds awful, where is this mans respect for you?

"until eventually I'd just lay there and let him"

Know that feeling too berry - and then being thanked afterwards, just horrendous.

ijudge - yes, that is rape. You didn't want sex, and he had sex with you. Being pressured into agreeing? Still rape.

This thread is both very sad, and wandering in to the realms of 'The Twilight Zone'. Men that try and stick their penis in you when they know you are ill or in pain are arseholes of the highest order.

No one wants to be in a loving relationship with you Mercy.

If this is boxy, this is getting beyond tiresome now.

Ijudge, I hesitate to call it "rape"

but I would call it nasty, domineering and the actions of a man who has no respect for a woman

it may not be rape, but it is coercion, because what would have been the consequnces for you if you had refused ?

you are still married to the twat, so I expect you have to rationalise it

please be aware though, that many women would not

Something is fishy around here for sure

Mercy has cheered up my day though and no mistake

I dunno if this is boxy

Who is boxy ?

Dignified, the "Boxroom" poster is a poor lady who posts repeatedly and alarmingly about some terrible relationship issues

yeah my ex would assume because i was awake and i was in the same bed that it was a given he would get some, regardless of how i felt , god i am so glad to be away from it, OP you need to get out of this relationship, or at the very least phone womens aid and take some advice.

What did mercy say to get deleted?

Who is boxy? It's not cod. I repeat she has no prodding problems

mm I completely agree. The joy of having the whole bed, bedroom, nay house to myself is still sinking in. Hooray!

And now I find that had mumsnet been around 25 years ago I could have avoided getting stuck with him.

Read mark and learn youngsters!

Mercy was looking for a loving relationship.

mercy is trolling the board posting "lonely heart" looking for a shag requests

Hello OP, are you still here? Please let us know you are OK.