I've been going out with a lovely man for a few months now. I love him to bits, everything about our relationship is fantastic. He's kind, gentle, funny and very sweet. The one problem is sex.
He's been very open and told me he has trouble getting an erection and went to great lengths to reassure me that the problem is not me. He thinks I'm gorgeous and wants to have sex with me but his penis just will not co-operate.
He gets very upset about it as it is very frustrating and not being able to make love to me properly makes him hate his body. He went to the doctor and had tests, there is nothing physically wrong, he can and does get erections, it's just that when he tries to put it in me it goes soft.
The doctor prescribed tablets which he has been taking daily for a couple of weeks but we've yet to see an improvement.
I have never been with a man with this problem so am just looking for advice on how to help him.
It's difficult to know what to say, I can't say it doesn't matter because it does, to both of us.
He thinks he should be able to get hard through kissing and the knowledge that sex is on the cards.
Is this unrealistic? We're in our 30s.
Maybe more stimulation is needed. I think maybe if I play with him a bit, go down on him, this would help him get an erection..
The trouble is he hates me touching his penis when it's soft, he pushes my hand away and won't let me go near it if it's not hard. If it gets hard then he'll attempt sex, if it doesn't then he just wants to cuddle and play with me.
When he attempts sex and goes soft he gets upset and I feel so awful for him.
I just want to help him and us to have a satisfying sex life. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, particularly from anyone who has experienced these problems.