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Sexual tension

13 replies

blankstare · 25/02/2011 21:17

I'm happily married, have been with DH for 15 years, since we were students.

Lately, I keep having dreams about someone I was involved with as a teenager. Typical teenage angst/unrequited love tragedy. I did end up sleeping with him after 3 or 4 years but it was a big anti-climax - relationship built entirely on sexual tension and emotional turmoil.

I haven't seen him since, although am his friend on facebook. We have chatted a couple of times but I have no interest or intention of seeing him, think he probably was a bit of knob etc etc.

But why the dreams? In the dreams, there's no real sex (shame) but just intense glances and the odd foot exchange under the table.

All in all, I think I'm missing the sexual tension. I love DH and we have a good sex life but there is no angst!

Is there anyway, in a long term relationship, to get that back? Or do I just have to start reading really trashy novels.

OP posts:
damppatchnot · 25/02/2011 21:46

Sexual tension makes you feel alive!

I have been with dh 10 years and we have not had sex in 4 Sad

Its not bothered me as I have had a life full of kids and stuff

But lately I have been feeling this way about someone I work with and its making me feel like I am loosing my mind

Not sure what to do bit somehow I know something will happen

Gettingthere1 · 25/02/2011 22:26

Sorry for being frank, FB is crap, Noone that you will ever communicate with will come up to your expectations. Mostly 90% of chaps on FB are there to get a quick shag and ex partners are easy meat SORRY
Sort out your current relationship you have given a lot of your life to it make it special.
Make your current guy your fantasy chap and enjoy it its easy.
Goog luck

fruitstick · 25/02/2011 22:37

Getting there, I am well aware of that, I have no interest in FB chap at all, genuinely none.

I also have no interest in having an affair.

Just trying to work out what I'm lacking and how to put it back Wink

fruitstick · 25/02/2011 22:38

bugger - forgotten I'd name changed Blush

PeterAndreForPM · 25/02/2011 22:40

aha !

outed Grin

couldn't you put some "tension" back into your sex life with DH ?

fruitstick · 25/02/2011 22:54

But how? I wash his pants, I squeeze his spots and he cuts his toenails before he gets into bed.

Apart from stopping all of these things I mean!

fruitstick · 25/02/2011 22:55

I would add that all of these things do not happen at the same time!

PeterAndreForPM · 25/02/2011 22:56

arrange to "meet" him in a bar

don't wear any knickers

fruitstick · 25/02/2011 22:58

hmm step one - book babysitter.

PeterAndreForPM · 25/02/2011 22:59

well, yes

I don't recommend taking the dc's along Smile

cheapskatemum · 25/02/2011 23:43

Especially if they're small enough to see up your skirt, you know how frank they can be!

moondog · 25/02/2011 23:46

I woulsn't be cutting his toenails.
Sheeshm, what a passion killer!

PeterAndreForPM · 25/02/2011 23:53

md, I think he cuts his own toe nails

but I get what you are saying Smile

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