I really want another one. Dh says he does too (he loves children and dotes on ours) and agrees to it and then changes his mind. It's driving me crazy.
When I say anything to that effect, he just says, "Well, that's that then, we're not having another one." It's like he's using it as a power over me.
He says we can't afford it. I don't see how that is the case when he's just been left a significant amount of money by a relative, has an excellent salary with great prospects.
I feel like it's me that has compromised all the time. Bringing up the kids in his family faith even though he's not religious, private schools (I wasn't at all keen but he emphasised how important it was to him so I agreed) and now the number of children.
The one thing that I always really wanted was 4 children. I can't help it. I sound spoiled but it's pounding away inside me.
His chopping and changing really upsets me. I know it has to be a joint decision but I feel like it's not. It's his decision. I've always said I'll go back to work once the youngest is in full time school and my salary would cover the cost of one child's school fees.
I just don't see what the problem is. He comes from a family of 2, I come from 5. His sister has 3 and I think he's scared to do anything different.
I get so angry and frustrated when he changes his mind. To me, it's cruel.