How can somebody be so ignorant??

[TenSpeedOfGodsBlood]

The past few weeks i have been seriously looking into councilling to sort out my anger and jealousy issues.
After speaking to a wonderful lady on MN i decided to contact one of the local centres that offers councilling.
I told my DP about it today, tried to explain why i thought i needed councilling etc. and he started questioning me regarding the jealousy.
I tried to explain to him that in no way do i think he would ever cheat or do anything bad to me but these thoughts do pop into my head even though i know its completely ridiculous and out of order, and i cant help it. The best way i can explain it is, there seems to be 2 sides to me, the normal me where i know what i'm thinking is silly and would never happen, then the other side that seems to try and convince that he is off with other women. But the normal side of me does seem to take control so i never ever say, or feel the need to say anything to him.

And now hes angry and wont speak to me because he says that "If you know you shouldnt be having these thoughts then you just shouldnt have them?!".

Can someone please help me try and explain to him that life isnt so black and white?
He wont listen to anything i say at the minute, and im not too good at trying to explain things rationally.

It sounds like he doesn't understand what is going on, and he is a bit confused.
You mentioned that you think these things (like him going off with other woman) but don't say anything at the time because deep down you know that it's not true.

Then when you talked about counselling, he doesn't understand that there was ever a problem to start with, as you didn't tell him at the time that this was an issue, If you see what i mean?

You mentioned that you have anger issues, Does the anger stem from the jealousy?
Or do you get angry about other stuff?

Anyway I hope you managed to sort this out with him.