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what did you do with the wedding photos......

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moocowme · 24/02/2011 00:22

after you split for good?

just curious as i have found mine in a box more than 10 years after he left.

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ChippedChinaTeaCup · 24/02/2011 00:24

My xh cut himself out of every single one :o

LadyFannyofBumStreet · 24/02/2011 02:21

How did you feel after looking through them? and what do you plan to do with them?

LittleHouseByTheRiver · 24/02/2011 08:20

Kept them for my DC. And I never did like the bridesmaids dresses but my DSis threw a strop and insisted on pink cocktail dresses. Ugh!I should have been more assertive it was my wedding after all.

NorthernSky · 24/02/2011 08:51

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sayithowitis · 24/02/2011 09:37

Not been in your position, however, my Mum kept the photos from her wedding to my Dad and gave them to me around the time DC1 was born. I am 'looking after them' in case any of the GC's ( or my DSis) ever wants to look back and see where they came from. I love looking at them as there are members of the family in them who are long gone, including, sadly, my Dad. My own memories of people like my grandparents are naturally from when they were much older, so it is lovely to see them asthey were in their younger days. Actually, it is amazing to think that I am now older than my Grandmother was at the time of those photos. goes to dig them out to see if GM was grey at that age or is it just me?

Anniegetyourgun · 24/02/2011 09:47

I think XH still has them. Don't really care what he does with them. That isn't me in those pictures, it's a naive girl who no longer exists.

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moocowme · 24/02/2011 10:48

descisions descisions..............

current DH does not know they exist so i would like to perhaps keep it that way. I dont think I would throw them all out as i would like to keep a couple of say family and one of me in my nice dress. I am not going to deniy the event to place i just dont see a reason to make it general knowledge.

anything thats a bit to soppy or close is definately going!!!!

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mrsravelstein · 24/02/2011 10:50

i've got them all in a box - ds1 can do what he likes with them (which will probably be chuck them away as he can't even remember a time when i lived with his dad) when he's grown up

upahill · 24/02/2011 12:19

I don't even know where mine are andI'm happily married!!

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 24/02/2011 12:28

THough it's never been a dilemma of mine and never will be (never married, never will) I would think that it might be nice to keep the ones that show the rest of the guests, as MCM said, and you in your nice frock, but maybe chuck out the soppy-loving-couple ones. Because most good wedding photos include some nice shots of (say) your own parents and siblings, and maybe a few friends that you've lost touch with or who have even died by now and it would be a shame to get rid of those.

QuelleLeJeff · 24/02/2011 12:31

They sit in a box and just "be"

ChippedChinaTeaCup · 24/02/2011 12:43

We;ve been divorced for nearly 14 years now so I don't care, and didn't really care at the time either. I do feel sad for my children tho, because it would have been nice for them to be able to look through them.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 24/02/2011 12:45

I've kept mine - they're lurking at the bottom of a huge chest of "memory stuff" for the DS's when they're older. At the end of the day my exH is still their father (despite how crap he is as a father) and to pretened there was never a "happy wedding" day would be unfair on them I think

tokenwoman · 24/02/2011 13:12

mine in a box along with all the children photos I gave the ones with just him in back to him more than 10 years ago, I was more upset at having to dig out the long buried divorce certificate (very bitter divorce) last year for my sons student loan to go through, than coming across the wedding photos showing 2 people full of happiness and hope for the future my boys will do what they want with them when their older

bumpsoon · 24/02/2011 14:49

Didnt even bother getting mine from the photographer ! but we are still together nearly 10 years later ,JUST!

TobyLerone · 24/02/2011 15:07

I've still got mine. Well, some of them my ex took some when he took the rest of his stuff. My daughter likes looking through them now and again and I like it when she does because she tells me I don't look any different (I was 20 and 8 stone. I'm now 33 and 9.5 stone-- much heavier).

My boyfriend finds them very amusing, because when I got married he was about 12 or something Hmm

venusandmars · 24/02/2011 16:08

I still have mine. Despite everything that went wrong subsequently, it was a happy day - I look radiant and my family look delighted.

I don't look at them often, but they do remind me of how I felt AT THAT time, the happy dreams and the love that we had for each other. The crap we had later doesn't negate that happiness that was there at that time. We've been apart for 17 years - I don't think I was so magnanimous at the time, but I am glad now that I didn't destroy them in a fit of unhappiness.

TobyLerone · 24/02/2011 16:23

Just to clarify, I am not 9.5 stone heavier than I was when I got married! Just read that back and realised that's how it looks...

brightermornings · 24/02/2011 16:27

I've kept mine for my kids to look at.

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