Workplace Romances - how was yours found out?

[SashaFierce]

Inspired by a thread I have been following so just curious?

I never had one, I saw them before the people involved would admit it publically, you can tell! One was a couple of teens, one was two married people, it all comes out later, there is something about the way they interact with one another once they have been intimate that gives it away!

for the married couple!

She told her colleagues in her office (same small company, but another office in a different town), that we were going on holiday together. oops.

we were'nt found out but it was openly suspected.

They both left their first partners for one another.

I knew someone personally who married a colleague, he and she had both been married previously also, the former friend and her second husband hid it from everyone and denied that it had happened, only a few knew the full truth, I am sure many suspected, I know the exh did.

We told our manager

ooh juicy!

my work colleauge has just told me that at her old place, the two people involved sent Christmas cards to other colleagues signing - from X AND XX and everyone was because they were married to other people!!!!

I don't wish to hijack but have a similar question regarding 'workplace' relationships - should people be told, or not, and who should tell them?

I know it's possible people will notice anyway...Bella, I read once that you can tell when a couple is intimate because they pass each other things without saying thankyou, like a glass of wine or a load of papers or whatever.

interesting!

that's interesting ingrid. with EXP i would always have thanked him and said please for passing me soemthing but with the office fling (before EXP, i am not a cheater) we didn't. jsut as you say, we would just lift things from each other and neither would raise an eyebrow.

Ingrid - oh yes join in, the more the merrier

I think you can hide it at work if you are not in the same department

hi,
i never kept mine a secret but my dp (now my DH) had to keep it quiet from his manager due to the terms and conditions of his contract. His manager found out because my stalker called him (the manager) and told him all about it, demanding that my dp was sacked as it was against company policy! He wasn't sacked or even reprimanded just tols by his boss and supervisor that it would all end in tears and that I wasn't good enough for him!

Madam - ooops!

MrsSoak I bet his boss wasn't invited to the wedding?

Sasha - I only found out about that comment some time after. We got married in SA so nooooo he wasn't invited. He wouldn't have been if we had got married here he was a slimy horrible man who would make 'amusing' comments about my bottom!

me thinks he wanted you for himself!

I have namechanged so as to not totally out myself but several years ago I worked somewhere which was "famed" for its investigations.

Two of my colleagues were involved in a relationship and the first thing anyone knew about it was when Private Eye printed a short article stating that the organsisations investigative skills couldn't be up to much because unbeknown to their colleagues they had got married the previous weekend

I am watching this with interest!

By getting out of his car at work the Monday morning after our first date on the Friday night To be fair I was 20 (and shameless) and it was just a summer job while I was at uni(his proper job though).

I've not had one since, my industry is very female dominated and I've had a lovely non-work boyfriend for the last 5 years.

my friend bumped into her workmate at the cinema whilst she was out with her team leader!

Spangers - that was a very long date!

It was more like 2 dates, well almost, I went home for saturday night

They're not always found out. I had one years ago and I suppose we must have been an unlikely pair, or nobody was watching us! He was more careless than I was. He would leave a post it note on my file as he walked by, and sayy "there's that information you wanted".

I had a romance with a colleague near 30 years ago in 1983.. He was newly divorced and I was very young.

I was,looking back, clearly a fling for him.Things ended rather arkwardly because I believed he loved me...blah blah blah (young and daft!)

Fast forward to 2007 when I change jobs to find that he is my director!!!

I avoided him for many months until he finally called me into the office to have a chat about my projects. However it was just an excuse to have a chat. The air was cleared and everything is comfortable although I have never let on to other colleagues about that time!

I had to ask my boss for maternity leave

Although to be fair, (my now)DH had already left the organisation and got a new job because he didn't want to mix work with his love life.

I met my DP at work but I have absolutely no idea how it became public, now you ask. I think people just gradually got the idea. It's an unusual workplace though; we aren't all in an office and mostly see each colleagues at work-related social events, so if you're happy to be 'out' it's quite easy to avoid making an announcement by just persistently turning up together.