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How to get rid of my husband the quick and easy way - the final straw trust issues

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EXlovely · 22/02/2011 09:43

To summarise situation found out he is addicted to online gambling and a secret FB account. I feel sick my stomach is in knots. Lying scum. Im angry and hurt. Im a SAHM with baby. What do I do to end this sham!

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MigratingCoconuts · 22/02/2011 10:26

So sorry for your pain Sad. Sending cyber hugs to you.

Confront him, tell him to leave. pack his bags for him. Make sure you secure all monies into a bank account you control alone.

See a solicitor asap about divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.

SmashingNarcissistsMirrors · 22/02/2011 10:38

you might want to sort out your affairs before you confront him. see a solicitor to discuss your wishes. make sure you have a seperate bank account. tell some close family member or friend so you have some support.

he's not just going to go quietly and with no fuss i imagine and you will need all the help you can get to deal with that and building a new life for yourself.

so sorry he has turned out to be such an arsehole.

MigratingCoconuts · 22/02/2011 10:50

yes, good point Smashing.

See the solicitor first and sort out what you plan to do before confronting him

If you are sure this is what you want and there is no hope of fixing it, then this is the quickest, least painful route.

And its going to be tough, so friends and family are very important. Good luck

ps don't forget to make sure you secure the money away from him

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EXlovely · 22/02/2011 12:10

Awww thanks . Forgot to say we dont have joint bank acc. Got two sol tel no who do legal aid. V.scared of future!

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MigratingCoconuts · 22/02/2011 12:14

it will be scarey and it will be upsetting but stay strong and focussed on what you want to do. This will help it sort quicker Smile

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EXlovely · 22/02/2011 17:15

Got appt in 2 wks. Tension horrible. Have to bide my time . . . . . . . .. . . .

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MigratingCoconuts · 22/02/2011 19:49

Use the inbetween time to plan what else you can do. Eg do you want to leave or do you want to stay in the house?

Confide in someone you can trust to help prepare too.

Good first step though!

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EXlovely · 22/02/2011 22:40

God im so angry! He is at work want loads of nasty texts!

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EXlovely · 22/02/2011 22:43

Send nasty texts I meant

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NotANaturalGeordie · 22/02/2011 22:43

Don't know what to say Sad but good luck for the future.

LittleMissHissyFit · 22/02/2011 23:53

Exlovely, you are doing what you need to do. Soon it will be easier.

Could you ask him to go stay with family for a while? Could YOU?

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EXlovely · 23/02/2011 12:27

He doesnt have anywhere else to go. He wont admit to anything. He tells so many lies. He says he loves me. Trust gone. He needs help! Am I allowed to change locks if house is in my name?

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LittleMissHissyFit · 23/02/2011 14:01

There are Premier Inns and cheap B&Bs all over the place. I'm sure he'd find somewhere.

Have you seen the FB page, why has he got it, who is he talking to? OW?

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