Husband missed birth

[pinkposey]

My son is now 8 weeks old. My husband was traveling with work when he was born two weeks early. My son is beautiful and my relationship with my husband is generally good. However, I keep thinking that we missed out on something significant with my husband missing the birth. There seems little point to dwell or to be bitter as it is in the past, but I can't seem to help myself. I'm not sure how to look forward and stop regretting - and also to stop wondering how our relationship as a three would have been different and perhaps stronger?? Any one got any thoughts?? Thank you!

Try not to dwell on what might have been, as others have said, this stuff does happen and can't be changed, it's futile and counterproductive to think "what if".
If our DD had been born a few months later than she was , DH would have missed her birth and her first 6 months, as it was he went off to war when she was six months old and this was in the days before computers and mobile phones etc.
Don't let it spoil your relationship, concentrate on strenghtening his bond, with your and your baby.

My dh had a fight with the midwife shortly after ds was born. He actually said everything I wanted to say but wouldn't but that doesn't mean I wanted him to do it! I think sometimes it could be easier without the father there, I suppose it all depends on how involved they want to be and how useful they are.