Does anyone get almost uncontrollable urges to shag other men?

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Or is it just me?

Nope, never. Just don't seem to find any other man vaguely shaggable - the thought of sex with someone who isn't my husband makes me feel slightly sick.

Lots of urges to jump my husband, though I suspect he'd like even more ;)

I have lots of urges to jump my other half, but he isn't remotely interested and hasn't been for a long time, I think like another poster said, its about getting your emotional needs met as well as your sexual ones.
When our relationship was good, the thought of being with anyone else was totally alien to me, but now.....

Wow reading this has made me feel a lot better. As I came on MN with the intention of posting something similar. My monthly 'urges/fantasies' are starting to become a bit of a worry. I am reasonably happily married with 2 kids, we've had bad patches but seem to be out of them. We have an ok sex life but I have really gone off it the past few months. However it seems it is just with him that I've gone off it. I regularly dream/ fantasise about other men RL or otherwise- quite often ex lovers or partners. I want to be married / monogamous but am starting to wonder if I am capable? I have never been in a RL situation coz I avoid it as not sure j could trust myself! The urges/dreams seem to take over my whole being for a couple of days and always seem to be at a similar point in my cycle. Realise i prob need to talk to DH about the decline in our sex life, but really not sure j can. He's a lovely man and am sure he's the one j wanna be with but surely it should be his clothes I wanna rip off?! I am 32 is this the right age for the ovulation thing? Why haven't I felt it before? HELP

I think this is generally not discussed enough - it is a quite remarkable thing that women have amazing hormonal urges to sleep with men other than their husbands, and that it is always assumed to be only men who only have these urges.

It may be the case that marriage was the institution created by men to control women from these urges !

Here here lady blah blah!

It may well be, LadyBB ...

Felulah, if you fancy sex with everyone BUT DH (well, not everyone!) it sounds as though you've gone off him for a reason. Could be something to do with the bad patches you mentioned?

Do you feel more like sex with him around ovulation time? Yes, it's the right age: women's sexual peak is around 30-40 years of age :)

Er, def not :o

nope.

Can't say I do. Mrs GMSS would have a fit - err apparently....

Oh god I totally have the ovulation "urges", sometimes it sends me a bit mad. Not that I would do anything about it (other than jump DH ) but I sometimes get visions of what it must be like to be a teenage boy constantly thinking about sex!

I don't think it's wholly uncommon

:-) I went to a lecture last week (Gresham College) by a Professor of evolutionary biology. He said that women with a partner at home get very flirtatious with other men mid cycle. Even though they don't know it, they show more flesh and are more willing to take risks. He talked for a bit about how this might have evolutionary advantages (eg if your primary partner is infertile, it is a back up). Apparently, this mid cycle rampancy does not apply to single women in the same way.

Hey notsolomon thanks for your v interesting post- which makes me feel a bit better! Though I have spoken with my DH re getting things back on track so fingers crossed! Not entirely sure that the brief comments from other mumsnetterrs saying "er definitely not" and "nope" with smug smiles are particularly supportive or helpful on this thread...

No. I’ve been cheated on, and I would never, ever do that to anyone, even if I hated the sight of them.

I was watering my hanging baskets the other night when a youngish guy jogged past with the most amazing muscly legs and arse. I did think to myself I wouldn't mind shagging him.

Given I'm in my late 60s, and wearing non flattering gym gear, I doubt very much he was thinking the same about me.

Never in 25 years. I'd be more likely to have an emotional affair than a sexual one if I was to do anything

Yep, definitely connected to mid-cycle. I remind myself of this on the very odd occasion when I could be making dubious choices. After all, a few days later, I'm completely over it.

No, DP has a phenomenal penis

How does an “almost uncontrollable” urge manifest itself?
Whining, salivating, having to hold onto items of furniture to prevent yourself hurling yourself at some poor sod?
It must make life extremely difficult OP

Also, “ watering my hanging baskets” sounds EXTREMELY rude in this context

ZOMBIE!!! 🤣🤣🤣

next time I get the urge to water my hanging baskets I'll ask my muscly legged neighbour to help, it can get a bit dry these days