I've finally reached the point of admitting to myself that there's nothing left to save. The marriage was a mistake on both sides-I kept quiet how I felt about a lot of things and he told me what I wanted to hear so we are both to blame. He has been a heavy drinker and basically only supported me financially, never emotionally or practically. He wanted a stay at home wife so I foolishly gave up a job I loved after dd1 was born. Ever since I've been accused of being lazy and a drain on him! He has said some awful things which I can't forget and been drunk or hungover on most important occasions such as our wedding day, the day dd1 was born and the night my dad died. I arranged counselling but he just lies to them and so I've been going on my own. I just feel there is no way back and its so sad. Sorry this is so long just needed to write it down. Any advice gratefully received.