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Why are men so crap at Anniversary stuff???

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FangAche · 17/10/2005 10:23

Its our 2nd Wedding Anniversary. We are going away to Dublin in 2 weeks to celebrate it properly, but I still wanted to mark the actual day!

We were in Tesco last night and I said to DH "Do you want to go look at something else while you choose me an Anniversary card?" I was kinda joking!!! And he said OH GOD IT's tomorrow isn't it, I haven't got you anything!!

In reality I hadn't got him anything either, except a card. But I had to get the card, pay for it and leave it on the table for him. He was working until 10pm last night.... and working a 1-10 shift again tonight. GOt up this morning and the card is still lying in the packet. He's says he'll make sure its waiting for my when I come home. I thought, yeah great I'll get to open my Anniversary card on my own, that I picked out in the first place!

Brilliant eh?

Bastard.

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FangAche · 17/10/2005 10:24

Didn't explain that very well! I mean I had to get my OWN card and leave it out for him to write it.

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FangAche · 17/10/2005 10:24

Didn't explain that very well! I mean I had to get my OWN card and leave it out for him to write it.

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 17/10/2005 10:31

WHAT A .... surely if you were in Tescos TOGETHER he could have gone off and chosen you a card there and then?!

Furball · 17/10/2005 10:38

Mines abit like that as well, thinks it's all abit of a waste of money, which it is, but it does mean something to think they've made an effort. We now have a no card rule but we do acknowledge the day and usually have a meal out somewhere. Some blokes are just like that. How is he with birthdays? I now have to remind him to remember to get me a card and pressie from DS!

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FangAche · 17/10/2005 10:41

JABM - I didn't give him the chance to. I just marched up to him and handed him the card. He kind of looked like a school boy caught smoking and hung his head in shame.

He did give me a big hug this morning.....

He's still an arse! For those that have followed my sad life story then he's feckin lucky he's still allowed to live in the house!

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shhhh · 27/10/2005 12:42

Thats why I got our wedding date engraved on our wedding rings...on along with my name .

Must admit though(sorry to praise men!!) that dh is brilliant usually when it comes to anniversaries and birthdays. He remembers but doesn't always know what to get. Advice is to forget hinting but to to tell them exactly what you want!!!! Good luck.

compo · 27/10/2005 12:43

I'd rather not have a card at all than buy my own and then nag him to write it but then dh ddidn't take me to Dublin and I'd have rather had that than a card anyday!!!

JenumGeranium · 27/10/2005 12:48

me and hubby are both as bad as each other!

We both bought cards for each other but they are still in their plastic! We have been married 2 years now.

On our first anniversary we actually celebrated it on the wrong day! Theres no hope for us!

As for Dublin - I am sooooo jealous - have you been before? We went ther for our honeymoon and I thought it was ace!

btw - congratulations!

Nightynight · 27/10/2005 13:11

why do women care about anniversary stuff?

I never got any present from dx in our whole marriage for Christmas, Valentines, anniversary or any other date.

It vaguely bothers me that Im not bothered by this when I read mn threads about all the loot you lot get from your dhs!

Bozza · 27/10/2005 13:28

compo - from what I've read on here I think its more like FangAche taking DH to Dublin than the other way round!

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FangAche · 27/10/2005 13:31

You got it Bozza! I booked a holiday to Dublin and told him when to get time off work!! So don't waste your energy envying me!!

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Bozza · 27/10/2005 13:32

But FangAche you are still getting to go to Dublin so

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FangAche · 27/10/2005 13:36

Bozza - Got the flights for 1p each way.

I've been before when I won a weekend there in a pub competition 7 yrs ago! I won't go into details about what I actually had to DO to win it, but I had to go with a bloke I'd never met as we had pretended to be a couple for the competition!!

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Bozza · 27/10/2005 13:50

You see I have a baby sitter problem. Oh and a money problem.

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FangAche · 27/10/2005 13:50

Bozza - We're having to drive 300 miles to get a babysitter!

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Bozza · 27/10/2005 14:12

Hmmm I might one day be coming back to ask your advice on getting the 1p flights. I will have been employed for 10 years in Jan and I have been led to believe that for my long service award I can choose two nights for two at any Marriott hotel in Europe. So if I could get 1p flights that would be one of my issues sorted.

spookylucy · 27/10/2005 14:30

Both dh and I are rubbish, we both forgot this year. I remembered about 2 months later and he said "oh yeah!"

eidsvold · 27/10/2005 22:13

well dh is better than me - 27 oct was our anniversary and whilst I had a card for him I forgot to write on it and he goes to work before I even get up ( usually awake). So this morning he greeted me with dd2 carrying a card ( we only do cards and flowers for ours - big ones we will celebrate.) I felt bad as I had not written in his card and given it to him before he went to work. He did have it waiting for him when he got home.

We did manage a dinner out on our own last night as well.

shhhh · 28/10/2005 23:32

Maybe I am too much of a "newly wed" but I think it's lovely to remember the anniversaries and to take time to get a card or gift for each other. As we all lead such busy lives nowadays it's nice to be able to to do something that little bit special. But I suppose everyone has different ways of showing this love and some people show it everyday.
DH & I even "remember" and celebrate the day we first met 10 years ago...

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