What do you suppose is going on here?

[nobiggy]

I've got a friend, having difficulties at home, don't know the details but she's really down, not sleeping well, lost all her enthusiasm for things.

He dh has been talking to another friend, saying we don't know her, if he left she wouldn't let him see their ds. Maybe he just needed to talk, but I have a bad feeling about it, as if he's "setting out his stall".

Any views?

I don't really understand what you are saying. This couple are having problems - you don't know what they - and are talking to other people and this is being spread around as gossip. Is this right?

It's not that so much - he spent hours talking to a friend/colleague if hers, who has subsequently relayed the information to others. I instantly felt uncomfortable because the version of this woman I'm hearing about is not the version I've come to know over the last three years. My instinct says he's putting her in a bad light with her friends for some reason.

Why dont you talk to this woman if she is your friend. Sounds like she needs a friend at the moment.

I'd love to, but the best I can do at the moment is email and text. I'll try and get to her next week.