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How fast can you actually fall in love?

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EverettUlyssesMcGill · 19/02/2011 18:26

I've spoken to this person about 3 times, properly, but already in the space of maybe three weeks, I feel as though I'm hopelessly in love with him.

Maybe it isn't love? I'm not sure how to tell. Nothing has happened, all we've done is talk and drink tea. Probably for a total of about an hour and ten minutes.

I don't understand it, but he is the most beautiful, perfect, lovely man on the planet, and I don't know what to do with myself.

What's going on?!

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EverettUlyssesMcGill · 19/02/2011 19:01

Ah, x posts! Hang on..

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EverettUlyssesMcGill · 19/02/2011 19:04

Yes, I can see how much it is about good luck, logistics and so on, now - I used to be an idealist but now I'm more circumspect.

Even if we did really love each other, it would be quite difficult to organise everything. Whereas if he found a beautiful, unhindered young thing with no kids, it would be so much easier for him...

there does have to be that element of 'Jesus he's perfect' though, I think - and it's been so rare I've felt that with anyone.

It's also possible i'm just not as great as he is, or not as ready for something astonishingly 'right', maybe he is a Catholic and will disapprove of my past...there's no telling yet.

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Changing2011 · 19/02/2011 19:07

Well I was only going for ONE drink with my DP after he pestered for weeks........ I never went home! Well, for a couple of nights, but hardly ever spent a night apart after. It was NOT love, we were just great friends, and companions, sex came shortly after, love has been a slow burn but well worth it. I think we "clicked" in the way you describe OP. But we were 19 and no kids, you must tread more carefully. Good luck!

lenak · 19/02/2011 19:28

I met DH while I was on a date with his best friend. We were only 17 but something clicked and within 2 weeks we weren't spending every night at each others houses. Within 3 weeks of meeting we were talking about the future.

We've been together 14 years now and just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary.

We were just two like-minded souls who wanted the same things out of life (even at that young age) and seemed to recognise it in each other.

Not sure whether it was love or lust but I do know that after only a couple of weeks it I missed him when we weren't physically together and I still feel the same now.

lenak · 19/02/2011 19:28

were not weren't

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EverettUlyssesMcGill · 19/02/2011 19:31

Lovely stories. Yes, I will tread slowly.

I feel like that Lenak. I've loved someone before, and I knew it by the pain it caused when he wasn't with me - one day he was hurt and I couldn't be there, and it hurt so much I cried.

It's stupid I know but I feel like I want to be with him all the time, and everything that happens, I want to tell it to him first iyswim. Yet we have hardly spoken.

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Mouseface · 19/02/2011 19:59

Oh, okay.......

Here's my love story.

I met DH when I was looking for a job, once DD was at full time school.

I was introduced to DH via a mutual (my best friend) friend. So off I went with my CV in hand, well eventually, it took me two weeks to actually get round to calling him for an appointment.

Anyway, in I walk to his office and bang.

Thing is, I was single, he was at the end of a very messy seperation.

So, we were friends to start, not friends with benefits I must add Grin

Plus, he wasn't my previous type (fast car, loaded, fit as fuck a butcher's dog, taller than me, bad boy, how shallow was I?) at all, but there was just something about him.

We have been together 6 years yesterday, married for five this July.

We got married where he took me on our very first date, to a castle Shock

Flash git! Grin

Now, stop with all this mushy nonsense.

I'm about to eat. Wink

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EverettUlyssesMcGill · 19/02/2011 20:04

Mouseface, that's gorgeous Grin

Thankyou for sharing. I feel all warm and glowy now!

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CheerfulMe · 19/02/2011 20:10

Loving this thread Grin

Mouseface · 19/02/2011 20:18

Stop that at once! No 'warm and glowy' allowed, this is Mumsnet FFS Grin

beingsetup · 19/02/2011 20:48

Well my ex did ask me to marry him on the first date! Four kids and ten years later it's over but it does happen!

noodle69 · 19/02/2011 20:54

We got engaged 10 weeks after meeting. He moved 400 miles to be with me after 4 weeks. Been married now 7 years and he is the best husband and father ever. Cause it can happen!

thelennox · 19/02/2011 21:02

Met on a Saturday, first date a week later, came to my flat the following weekend, and never really left. We said I love you two weeks and two days after we first met. Now been together for nine years And married for seven.

Mouseface · 19/02/2011 21:53

You lot! Bloody pack it in, it's Saturday night and you should be fighting in AIBU, surely? Grin

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