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Anyone heard of a male pill

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Gettingthere1 · 19/02/2011 10:47

We have three children and don't want anymore. Discussed both types of sterilisation but neither of us want to have an operation, I don't want the pain and he knows a fair few chaps that suffer afterwards in one way or another. I don't want to play with my hormones but he would be ok to do this himself. Is there such a thing yet as a male pill?

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MummieHunnie · 19/02/2011 10:53

Coil?

BabyBorn · 19/02/2011 12:39

IMO its tough shit if he doesnt want an operation, i would make that clear to him. I dont blame you about the not wanting to mess your body up with hormones, i dont and refuse to. I dont think there's anything on the market for pills for men. Tell him to get the snip.

eviscerateyourmemory · 19/02/2011 12:40

I agree with MummieHunnie - the copper coil could be a solution.

Or tell him that you arent willing to use contraception, so will be abstaining from now on.

BabyBorn · 19/02/2011 12:42

Sterlilisation can cause alot of problems in women, and unless you are over a certain age, or have very good reasons why you shouldnt get pregnant, most consultants will use this as the very last option. Its pretty straight forward for men to have a vasectomy, and i think hes trying to blag you by saying he knows a few men that suffer one way or another after it. Bollox.

Funloving · 19/02/2011 13:17

Actually there's a significant risk of chronic scrotal pain which is very hard to treat after vascectomy (I'm a gp). I wouldn't like my husband to have one. Coil is a good suggestion, a mirena coil can also really help with period problems as you get closer to the menopause and the hormones are locally acting so shouldn't have any systemic effects, although some women don't like them.

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Gettingthere1 · 19/02/2011 13:22

Thanks so far for comments, We will not be abstaining he he !! I am 40, Worded the Vasectomy thing badly we both know a chap that the operation has caused problems six months on and there are a fair few examples on here. He has not ruled out vasectomy just feeling nervous which is fair enough.

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MummieHunnie · 19/02/2011 13:24

I have never heard of vesectomy pain after a few weeks, I have heard of vesectomy reversal agony going on for years, ouch!

lemonmousse · 19/02/2011 14:16

BIG UP for the Mirena coil! (pardon the pun tee hee)
I've had one for over 10 years (well 2 actually - it lasts for about 5 years) and it's been brilliant.

BabyBorn · 19/02/2011 15:34

Funloving...as your a GP, What the hell are you doing suggesting a mirena coil??!! Have you actually had one yourself? Coil seems to be the mutts nuts in a GP's opinion, but i can assure you they most certaintly are not.Any Gp that offers the coil as the first point of call and i would walking straight out of the door and changing my Gp.If you want to argue that the coil isnt bad for EVERYONE then do some research. Majority of mirena coil users suffer, just depends whether they can put up with the side effects or not, and most importantly whether they want to do anything about it. Thank god it seems that MOST women have it taken straight back out again.

BabyBorn · 19/02/2011 15:39

People think this coil is brilliant for sorting out a very small problem (heavy bleeding) but this device causes many more horrific problems that people dont recognise to be related to the coil.FACT!

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 17:04

Babyborn how many years did you spend studying medicine at the Universityoif Google then if you are stating FACT!

Funloving's post used the words, can, suggestion and some women. Read it again properly.

You contradicted your self badly saying it's bad for everyone the saying the majority suffer.

Stating contradictions as fact and trying to speak for most women just makes you look stupid.

lemonmousse · 19/02/2011 22:20

It was my consultant who recommended the Mirena coil to me after the birth of DC3 at my post natal check up - I enquired about having tubes tied and she suggested this as an alternative.
Never had any problems - hardly have any periods.

BabyBorn · 20/02/2011 11:21

My mother has had the coil for 10 years, since this time she has put on tonnes of weight, suffers with anxiety attacks, and has heart palpitations, and these are just mild side effects.she cant be bothered to have it removed because it means heavy periods, and having to take time out from work to do anything about it. Lame excuse.

What do hormones do? Of course they have flipping side effects, will you now say that they dont? Hormones are one big side effect.Why do so many of us women suffer and have to keep changing pills, mini pill, coils?? Because we have side effects and many of us dont suit something or another.Mirena coil is the worse contraception made. Health professional still do not know enough about it. Should be banned.

eviscerateyourmemory · 20/02/2011 11:26

What kind of coil does your mother has - presumably even if it was a 10 year copper coil it will be due for removal now?

BabyBorn · 20/02/2011 11:46

Mirena coil. She wasnt aware that her side effects were due to her coil at the time. She has had ECG's as the palpitations were that bad she thought she was going to have a heart attack. ECG found nothing. It was only when i started getting palpitations that i linked it to mirena.I also had symptoms of severe acid reflux. This went on for 9 months. I had a Endoscopy which showed nothing. Doctor refused to accept that mirena was to blame, preformed more tests. Nothing. Then doctor accepted that mirena was the cause. Had it removed (thank christ) and all symptoms have vanished. coincidence right.

eviscerateyourmemory · 20/02/2011 12:09

If she has had her Mirena in for 10 years I doubt it will have any hormone left in it - they are only effective as contraception for 5 years.

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Gettingthere1 · 20/02/2011 13:25

Thanks all, I went on the pill many years ago and it raised up my blood pressure I wondered if I should have tried another type rather than giving up particularly as my periods are all over the place now. My goodness Mirena is a topic !!
Anyone heard of a male pill ????

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BabyBorn · 20/02/2011 15:25

She had it removed and inserted again....i HAD said she didnt realise the mirena was to blame....before she had her 2nd one inserted, ovbiously as they do only last for 5 years Hmm

Funloving · 20/02/2011 18:28

No there isn't such a thing as a male pill unfortunately! Babyborn, you're right, the mirena isn't for everyone. But at least you can have it taken out if you do have problems, which can't be said for sterilisation. But it's important and really useful option: there is no perfect contraception unfortunately, there are risks and benefits to everything, and for some women heavy bleeding is not a small or minor problem, but totally debilitating and for them a mirena can be life changing.

ModreB · 20/02/2011 18:37

BabyBorn I'm sorry that your mother had so many problems, but I am on my 2nd mirena and would not change it for anything. Don't forget, what suits some doesn't suit others.

I would always recommend trying the mirena, if you get on with it great, if not, have it taken out again.

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