is this just the start?

[howdidthishappentome]

last night my husband and me were arguing and he punched me, it didnt hurt that much but was done it such anger it has truly scared me? i got up this morning and went off to work like normal but something in the back of my head is telling me this is not right. i know a man should never hit a woman trust me i'm not stupid but i kind of dont know what to do next?

Ageing Grace - I agree I just wanted to ascertain what if anything how trival or serious the argument was

You're saying he wants more sex than you do, so he pressures you for sex? Oh dear :(
He seems to see you as a convenience for him! Though I'm sure he can be lovely, too.

I very much do know how you feel and I hope you will ring a qualified support agency. It is hard to admit it to yourself! You've done incredibly well to start a thread.

Thumping someone to get them to have sex with you isn't the best approach, is it? Both of my XHs resorted to rape towards the end (mind you, I couldn't bring myself to call it that, at the time.)

Thanks for reply :) Good for you! x

I'm so sorry this has happened to you howdidthishappentome.

What you are experiencing is domestic violence. It is a crime, and it isn't your fault.

You can receive completely confidential support from Women's Aid. No-one there will tell you what to do. No-one there will judge you whatever decisions you make with regards to your situation.

Women's Aid can provide emotional support if you simply need a listening ear, they can also provide practical support if you need help with finances or finding a sympathetic solicitor for example.

I'm afraid however sorry he is now, this will happen again, and will probably escalate. Take care of yourself and take care of your little girl.

Wishing you all the very very best.

I have stayed in a situation that was sporadically violent because one I couldn't believe it was happening and 2 because I thought I somehow deserved it, had driven him to it.
The last time I was headbutted whilst 6 months pg and holding a 9 month old poorly baby. have never got over that. The relationship is over anyway and we will be moving without him when the house sells. There has been no physical violence since the headbutting. There has been verbal abuse though.
What is interesting is that since I finally stood up to him, not by being aggressive or shouting,, defending myself or crying just not taking any notice of threats and quietly walking away when he was being unpleasant, basically refusing to rise to the bait. The nastiness has completely stopped.
I am well aware it could start at any moment BUT after 15 years I feel very very strong and in control. He can no longer touch me on an emotional level and he knows that.

I wish I had gone to the police after the last assault, I was simply too shocked to so I completely understand the confusion you feel.
All sense says do this, go, get out, but christ it's never that easy. If it were , well...

thats just it now flip i ignore him most of the time but in a way that seems to have made him even worse he knows that he cant get to me with words so has resorted to violence. we havent spoke since the incident i feel so uncomfortable in my own home

he knows that he cant get to me with words so has resorted to violence.

As others say its escalating . When one punch doesnt work it will turn into 4 or 5 punches . Please do ring womens aid and get some support . Theres also several good books that are recomended ( why does he do that / living with the dominater ) and theres lots of websites that make interesting reading . You,ll find hes just following a script like every other abuser.

Please do consider confiding in someone in real life , at this stage you need someone to validate whats going on or he will continue to tell you its your fault . Its not.