Emotional turmoil! My ex is still in love with me.

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Not my dds father but my ex of 5 years ago! Feel very very weird. Cannot believe it and cannot believe he told me.

It was on the phone and he was a bit pissed and being weird. I thought he might say he fancied me again or something...

(changed my name in an attempt to remain anonymous!)

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Are you with dd's father now?

Nope, me and dds father split two years ago.

It wasn't a phone call out of the blue, sorry for the lack of detail. He works with computers and I recently emailed him (he does both my parents computer stuff) to get some advice and ended up buying a computer off him.

Spent a bit of time together in a friendly way recently but did not expect that.

Do you have a bloke at the moment?

So basically we have hardly seen each other for five years, met again recently and he says he is still in love with me. Not fallen in love again but still in love.

Nope, single and happy most of the time...!

Oh well then,give it a whirl if you feel the same!

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AS long as he feels the same sober! But if you are both free and singe and he hasn't caused you a lot of pain in the past go for it.

single not singe!

My dh's ex sent him a drunken affectionate email a few weeks ago. They split up acrimoniously 9 years ago when she dumped him for someone she had been seeing behind his back. This email was very full on, calling him sweetheart and honey and asking for his postal address so she could send him something. I was frosty about this, to say the least, and she sent another one recently saying she was really embarrassed and had been pissed when she wrote it.

I've done the same, late at night a bit drunk and single. But there's no going back successfully ime.

lol at tsap's Freudian slip.

'single' and 'singed'

Excellent!

No I caused him HUGE amounts of pain! I don't think he has ever really gotten over it, not trying to be vain, just picked it up with what he was saying.

We had a great relationship and I love him loads, at first, but then he became moody and a bit controlling and in the end I had to end it. It was making me unhappy.

Although we are getting on very well now, I know that we are the same people fundamentally so it is bound to all go wrong again!

Am depressed about it tbh.... have been thinking I'd like a boyfriend recently, meet an ex, get on well, tells me he loves me but just can't see it working.

I'd just break his heart (his words) all over again.

If I felt it could be 'casual' I would be more tempted but when someone says they still love you I think that makes it a bit too serious!

I know moondog in the back of my mind I was thinking watch you don't get burnt but was trying to be positive!

Whenever I dismiss Freud as a penis obsessd mysoginist I make a Freudian slip!

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Also, I think it's a bit sad that someone hasn't moved on in that time. I have been in love with a fair few men in my time and really loved them for a while, but we are all different people now and there's no reason why a love I felt then would be rekindled if I met any of them again.

Whenever I've drunkenly phoned an ex I've been mortified next day at giving the impression I hadn't got over them.

But if he was moody and controlling then he will still be that person, hemay hide it during the honeymoonperiod but we always revert to out true personality type.

Whenever you go back to an ex you have to face that you are going back to the same person and the same problems, can you have a relatinship with the same person with the same issues?

Now I have acknowledged my Freudian slip I may as well keep raising the negative - see now the honeymoon phase is over I have reverted to my true personality type.

That is exactly the problem. It would probably be lovely for a while and then BANG the cracks would start appearing and I would wonder why the hell I had bothered in the first place.

One thing that was crazy was when he said he realised he was still in love with me. It wasn't in the last month (since getting back in touch) but about 10 months ago!

I was at my dads office and he came in to fix something. We exchanged about 2 words but apparently when we caught each others eye he just 'knew' or something. The next week he broke up with his girlfriend of a year!

He didn't want to get back together with me (hence the fact that he didn't get in touch then) but he realised there was no point being with someone he didn't love. Crazy.

I am sure he will move on eventually, completely that is. I think I kind of f**ked him up. [shame emoticon]

Was supposed to be going to cinema with him tonight but have cancelled, can't face it. No relationship and now probably no friendship. It's sad.