Gut instinct. A hunch. (Female) Intuition. ALWAYS..ALWAYS..ALWAYS.....

[caramelwaffle]

...trust it.

Especially when dealing with instints about a relationship - romantic, or otherwise.

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Have a quick peruse of the "Gaslightling" thread shabby.

Think there is a difference between instinct and paranoia though and some people can confuse the two.

Whats happened?

I agree, it's a powerful tool. I ignored mine once, concerning a job and it was a bg mistake.

x-post. Have read the post you're referring to now and yes, instinct is normally right in instances like this.

haven't read the thread but i agree.

Yes Roisin. I turned down a potential business partner once on nothing but a gut feeling; nothing concrete. On paper he was fabulous. Turned out eventually, he was a prolific fraudster.

Can someone post a link to the thread you're talking about please?

Just read it. I agree - I always trust my gut feelings.

Amber - the thread is called "Gaslighting - how do you know"

Although my point about trusting your instincts is not only specific to that thread IYSWIM

Gut instinct...never to be ignored..

Thanks caramel found it!

I agree about trusting your instincts totally.

I agree intution/gut instinct what ever you call it is always right.

Problem is if you are being Gaslight or such like...you tend to lose the ability to feel/hear that instinct...if you listen hard enough though it's always there.

I should be on my DHs payroll, my gut instinct is so good...met his new team at the Christmas party. Instantly took a dislike to one of his team and 'knew' there was something 'off' about her...roll on a few months, she's made a lot of mistakes at work, not showed up for work, missed client appointments and then Amex called saying she's racked up $20k of personal expenses on her company Amex card and could they have permission to cancel it! See, I just knew!

Oh, mine's shit. I'm always getting a 'feeling' about people who turn out to be perfectly decent.

Shit. I've got a gut feeling about my job...it aint pretty...

Good call. Trust that instinct - it is more powerful than any damn radar :)

I had a gut instinct once that the vicar that christened my DD1 was dodgy. Four years later he was in prison for fraud. And he wore white shoes

Agree - always trust that little voice in your head!

I'm not sure, I have had "gut instincts" about dp, but I think it is paranoia. Paranoia can be quite misleading, specially when combined with the relationship board, you can be convinced every man is up to something, I could be wrong though and it turns out he IS a bastard.

Gosh I shall now always view people who wear white shoes with suspicion

Do you think I should bin my white sandals? I have two pairs of them and they were fiendishly expensive. But now that I know they brand me as a child-abuser I should definitely chuck them, shouldn't I?

Or are you totally mad?

Little House said he was in prison for fraud, not child abuse.

Oh aye. Okay. Fraudster me with my white sandals.

Utterly bonkers

I don't trust men who wear white shoes these days QC After the dodgy vicar I met an estate agent who wore white deck shoes and he lied and lied and lied. It was so easy to catch him out that I didn't lose anything but the bullshit radar was squawking.

Just binned DHs white pumas!