Should we finish?

[Molliesmum]

Hi can I have some advice please? Been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half after getting together a few months after my seven year marriage finished. We both have children and it's very complicated. We haven't moved in together because of our situations and I'm not sure I want to. Some days I think it can work and others I feel like running away. Is this normal after this length of time? I feel so confused!

Not enough detail to give you an answer, sorry

Tbh, it sounds as if you may not have given yourself enough time to grieve for the end of your marriage and adjust to life without your XH, if this current relationship started only a couple of months after your marriage broke down.

What is it about your current DP/relationship that makes you feel like running away?

What is it specifically that makes your situation complicated other than both having children?

I think what fafftastic says is very true around not giving yourself time to grieve after your marriage.

maybe your feeling you want to have that single life again for a short time but enjoy the feeling of a relationship.

Its very difficult to judge because Id be tempted to say you should try cooling it for a bit, enjoying single life - but then that has the flip side of when you decide to get back together one of you may have moved on and found someone else, so it is risky but it may help in the long run.

Could have called that wrong because not too much detail but its my penny thoughts

Are your concerns stemming from discussions about moving in together in the future?

Depends whether you think if you want to be in the same situation in 5 years time with the same person.

Hi thanks all. I think it's more that I'm wondering if after that length of time should I have so many doubts and feel fed up a lot of the time? You are right about it being too quick I think, also my partner still has financial issues, house etc with ex which are frustrating but as I said I think I might want to just live ony own anyway as we seem to fall out a lot. It's not about having a single life I just want to feel calmer and not worrying all the time if it's going to work or not