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Man..... I got dumped.

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TheDevilAndTheDeepBlueSea · 13/02/2011 16:44

I'm gutted. It's one of those where I know it's the right thing to walk away... but I really don't want to.

It will never work. But I haven't had my heart broken for a long time. And it's shit.

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TheDevilAndTheDeepBlueSea · 13/02/2011 17:27

Yes, it was me.

And deep down, I think I always knew that it wouldn't happen. Which is why I didn't move in, I suppose.

I need to feel better, and I can't.

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Suncottage · 13/02/2011 17:48

Follow your instincts, you said it wouldn't work. Why should anything change?

Nothing more to offer at the moment but it will get better and easier.

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TheDevilAndTheDeepBlueSea · 13/02/2011 18:14

It's so complicated, rabbit.

He wants me to move in, because we're so close. He needs me in his life, but he doesn't love me, not in the way I want.

He's faithful, he's emotionally committed - but he doesn't want the kind of relationship that I do. He can't give me that. It makes no sense written down, in fact it barely makes sense when it's happening.

He wants to be with me, but doesn't want what goes with it.

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lazarusb · 13/02/2011 21:41

I read your other thread and it didn't sound good then. Sorry it hasn't worked out for you but it was never going to be the relationship you wanted. Hold your head high.

LusciousLips · 13/02/2011 21:52

you say he needed you. but what for? can you share? if not and its because he wants you to do his cooking/cleaning/ironing then he is just using you and whilst you never want to admit it when the breakup is still fresh, once you have moved on you will see that you should have done it much sooner

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ShirleyKnot · 15/02/2011 10:41

Just seen this. Sad

Come sit by me Devil, we can talk trash.

IngridBergmann · 15/02/2011 10:46

Oh I am sorry Sad

Fwiw I'll join you, even though I have not yet dated the man I really fancy, I know it's unlikely ever to happen, so I feel a bit gloomy too.

OTOH I have mentally dumped the on off partner I was seeing since October, because I am fed up with him. So that's a bonus. Smile

I will share my gladness with you if you like.

ShirleyKnot · 15/02/2011 11:06

ooooo. Ingrid you are a DUMPER not a DUMPEE Wink

Well done, I think on/off stuff is almost worse to contend with than ordinary relationship shite.

I hope Devil is ok - she was all happy on her thread about moving in with him (if a bit worried about her ex)

Why is it unlikely that you will get to date the fanciable one?

piratecat · 15/02/2011 11:20

it is shit, it is.

i lost someone after xmas, and spent 2 weeks sleeping, eating toast and googling heartbreak. I thought it wouldn't feel any better ever. This was daft becuase i have been thru a divorce, and felt better than those initial times.

piratecat · 15/02/2011 11:23

just realsied that was of no help.

On paper, it doesn't sound right no, not for you.

Or anyone, even if i don't know what his reasons are. Better off alone and to be in hope that you will find something joyous and fulfilling, than to do this.

hold hands here lady, and hold on to hope for a better deal. x

ShirleyKnot · 15/02/2011 11:24

I am in week 3. It.Sucks.

But I am past that weird out of body feeling and the not eating and not sleeping bit. Thank Fuck.

piratecat · 15/02/2011 11:25

yes, you will the time to pass don't you.

ShirleyKnot · 15/02/2011 11:28

Ugh, that first couple of days is just the pits. I kept wanting to blink at it to be 6 months time.

I still feel a little bit like that.

piratecat · 15/02/2011 12:03

ikwym. normal to still feel like that, but the fact it lessens is the one thing that gives me strength.

IngridBergmann · 15/02/2011 14:34

I hope she is Ok too. And sorry you guys are still going through it. I have been there, too...

sorry for being a bit of a gatecrasher. I have myself pre-dumped, as it were, by gorgeous bloke.

He's just, well, you know when a bloke is very successful AND very pretty AND eligible AND head honcho at some multi national organisation? Oh and Sporty and kind and good with ickle children?

He is basically sportacus in a suit. I don't qualify. I am Mrs Weasley in a pair of scruffy jeans, with haystack hair and worse children than his, and I am a nuisance.

My gut feeling is to hold my head high and just be the chaotic person I am, and hope he sees me as a friend..

but this isn't about me, so I'm sorry to ramble on. Lots of Wine and hugs to you all xxxxx

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